Month: February 2015

…what is my MOTIVATION?

Oh I still love the old Sprite commercial where the guy interrupts and asks, “excuse me, excuse me, what is my motivation?”

Motivation (by definition) is the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.

So now you may ask, well what is my motivation/desire/willingness? Well personally I think it is important to focus on 2-3 main goals (which can be broad but attainable-mine are ;D) at a time. They currently are 1. to be better and 2. to lose weight. To be better??? Yes I know it’s broad (I told you it would be), but I want to be better: As a believer, spending more quality time with God and not just stopping for a five minute break to say oh yeah God, this is our moment of the day, thanks & bye! I want (and need) to have daily praise & worship as well as dig deeper into the Word. To be better as a wife, making sure that I am encouraging and lifting up the hubs daily. Reminding him of the love I have for him and serving as his helpmate. And to be better as a mother, learning how to turn off the noise and sit and talk-conversate with my boys. I do not want to be that disconnected parent because I have not taken the time to get to know them individually on their level. So #2 is pretty self-explanatory, to lose weight. It is time for me to be selfish and love myself wholeheartedly. In the past I have been that special occasions, every once in a while type of woman who will make time for myself to get pampered or buy a pair of shoes. My actions were purely devoted to the fact that I believed the money for those things had “better use” for our family. But I am now coming around to learning and knowing that I am just as important as the other 4 members of my family. They represent me and I represent them! For that purpose alone I know I need to make some changes-beginning with my weight. It is time for me to focus more on my eating habits and start moving!! I want my hubs and boys to be proud of the woman they see and not be ashamed or embarrassed for me to show up at their job or school. This is all a process that starts with me loving me and taking care of me. I must approach each day with a positive attitude and do something that is beneficial to reaching my goals. I must take care of the temple God has given me so that it can remain useful to the Kingdom, my family, my girlfriends, and my clients!

Tell me, what is your motivation? Who or what are your motivators?

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I Got the Blues…Part II

Girlfriends…I made it through the tour without crying, BUT almost had a small emotional outburst LOL! However I was a “big girl” and swallowed it back down. I did not want to embarrass my husband, nor myself. Even though I think the program director saw it all over my face and is used to those types of reactions from new preschool/daycare moms. This is a huge step! It seems like just yesterday she was 2 weeks old and we were bringing her home from the hospital. (That’s another story that I will share with you all at a later date).

So on to the story about the actual tour. Overall I was very impressed by the school, their curriculum and staff. I will withhold from sharing the name of the school for now. Upon our arrival, the director was at the door with a huge smile on her face waiting to greet us (Love that!) Instantly she made me and baby girl feel comfortable. My pooh was a little intimidated at first and literally hugged my leg the first 15 minutes of the tour. LOL! Once we started touring the classrooms she started to open up a bit and showed interest in the toys and various activities going on. It wasn’t until we visited with her potential class on the playground that my almost outburst occurred. While hubby and I were talking to the director I noticed she slowly inched away from us and closer to the other kids. Before we knew it she was in the midst of the kids, engaging in their block activity, without looking back at mommy and daddy. Okay I’m getting emotional again!!! No but like seriously 🙁

We left her on the playground for a little while to go over some paperwork. When we returned to let her know it was time to go, she looked as though she was right at home and wasn’t ready to leave her new found friends. She actually had a fit when Daddy picked her up so we could go. This is the reassurance I needed (well we both needed) to see that she is indeed ready to start school. I just don’t know if Mommy (nor her Nana, another post for another day lol) is truly ready for this. I want her to grow up, but then again I want her to always be my sweet baby girl. What am I going to do when its her actual first day….then her first day of kindergarten…first day of high school…prom….graduation…..

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! I need your prayers PLEASE!!!!! I guess I just have to suck it up and realize she’s growing up and know that she will always be my baby girl. I (we) will get thru this!!!

Don’t worry, there will be a Part III coming soon after her first day, or maybe first week. Stay tuned girlfriends!!!

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How it all started…The Journey Leading up to 12/6/2014

It all started in mid-January talking with one of my best friends about “girl stuff” lol and she mentioned this guy named Robert. She went on and on about how nice he was, how we had a lot of things in common, and how some of his past options were bad choices. So I said that it would be ok for her to give out my number. A few weeks went by and she asked if I heard from him yet and I hadn’t. She didn’t know what was taking him so long to reply…lol I told her no big deal. Then on March 1, 2013 hanging with my sister and her newborn, I received this text that took me a few hours to reply to lol. I just didn’t know what to say!

Robert: Hello Erin, I apologize for taking so long to reach out. Believe that my reason for pause is not associated to my level of attraction to be honest I sneaked a peek 🙂 of your Facebook account and your beautiful…I understand that this isn’t an arrangement but I find that sometimes things just happen giving the opportunity and I guess I was just concerned on the negative potential. Well I’m done with my mini panic attack at times I get carried away, I have quite the imagination. Hopefully we can get to know each other and become friends over time and go from there.
Me: Good morning…I hope your day is going well so far. I’m glad to hear from you and it’s ok I can understand your concern. No need for the mini attacks…I’m looking forward to getting to know you.

What would be your response???? Continue reading…


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A Black History Moment

So we all know the month of February is Black History Month and I would like to take a moment to speak about two ladies I recently researched. Their names are “Sadie” and “Bessie” Delany better known as the Delany Sisters. Sadie, the oldest born September 18, 1889 in Lynch’s Station, Va., was the first black person permitted to teach domestic science in New York high schools. Bessie was born September 3, 1891 in Raleigh, NC and later became the second black female dentist licensed to practice in New York. Their parents were faculty members at St. Augustine School, now University, in Raleigh, NC. These were great accomplishments for these ladies as well as their parents, but they are also known for the record they hold in the Guinness Book of records for being the oldest authors to publish a book. Their second book titled “The Delany Sisters’ Book of Everyday Wisdom” was published in 1994. Sadie at age 105 and Bessie at age 103. During an interview it was noted that neither were married and they joked about their long lives being due in part to never having husbands to “worry them to death.” Bessie passed at age 104 in September 1995 leaving Sadie to write a third book about life without her sister. Sadie later passed at age 109 in January 1999.

Isn’t it great know that with old age comes even more wisdom. Wisdom beyond measure that it is possible to do such things as write books at 100+ years of age. These were some remarkable ladies and I would like them to know they have truly inspired me!

Remember ladies nothing is impossible at any age! You can do anything you set your mind to!! Be inspired and be encouraged on this day and each day forward that you have a purpose!!!

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I Got the Blues…Preschool Edition

Okay so I’m feeling some type of way. I just scheduled my baby’s first preschool tour and I’m trying not to cry!!!! So I guess you’re wondering if I’m a stay at home mom, I wish!! I have been blessed enough to have my mom care for my daughter since she was 7 weeks old. Well my baby will be 3 in April and it’s about time that she branch out from Nana’s care and start on her journey as a big girl in school. (Anyone have any tissue??) 🙁

I’m super nervous. I have so many questions…how will she adjust? Will she cry the whole day? Are they going to feed my baby properly? Will she make friends? Will she get sick her first week? Okay take a chill pill Katesha!!! (Breathe in, breathe out…woooo saaaaaaaaa) You all will have to bear with me; this is all new to me!!!!

How do I go about not being the over bearing, over protective mom? I do not want to be the mom that is always popping up at school checking on her baby! Just so that you can get a feel of where I’m coming from, she’s almost 3 and if she naps too long I still check to make sure she’s breathing LOL!

So I want to pose a question? How have you all dealt with your child’s first day of school? I’m open for any and all suggestions.

Now go easy on me girlfriends, you know I’m emotional! 😀

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Year One…

Year one will be all over the place…various emotions and feelings to happy memories and laughing on the inside. Come along with me on my journey of the first year as a widow…

As another “holiday” comes and goes, it continues to remind me of what and who I don’t have anymore. From the beginning when you pray for a mate and let God do the rest, when it’s your time according to His plan, the love and relationship comes naturally. I’ve never said that it was always easy, but it was always worth it. If you are blessed with another opportunity to say I love you and to wake up next to your chosen mate, be honored and grateful. As I go on day to day, I pray that it’ll get easier. I know God will send another my way; but until then, Happy Valentine’s Day!

ER1 2.17.15ER2 2.17.15

*Robert Ford 12/06/2014*

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So tomorrow is Valentine’s Day! The one day a year that for some they express an exuberant abundance of love and affection towards others because well its Valentine’s Day lol. Since being married I have learned what it means to love someone each and every day. That no matter the struggles or trials of the day at the end of it all there is still LOVE. Love is more than candies, roses, balloons, and cards. Love is a feeling, an emotion, those little butterflies you get in your stomach. That is in my opinion how love should make you feel. Anybody know what I am talking about? So not only is tomorrow Valentine’s Day but Tuesday is the hubs BIRTHDAY! So he’s in for a double-dose of loving ;D. This weekend myself and the hubs will be doing a little special celebrating at a Neo-Soul concert. It is his favorite artist so I had to make sure to jump on those tickets when I saw that she was coming!

Today is also a very special day for a young couple I know who will be getting married this afternoon. I decided to send them a poem I found by Terah Cox titled “An Uncommon Love.” It reads…

May you have the love
only two can know
May you go where only
two as one may go
May the sun rise and set
in your bonded hearts
and the moon never find you
too long apart
May you cherish each other’s
dreams as your own
and turn all stumbling blocks
into stepping stones
May you brave life’s mountains
and miles together
May there be no storm
your love cannot weather
May you always be lovers
and allies and friends
May your souls’ conversation
never end
May you capture on earth
what’s in heaven above
May your hearts know the rapture
of an uncommon love.

Wishing them an eternity of love and happiness!

So Girlfriend what is LOVE to you? How will you celebrate your Valentine this year?

Wishing each of you a WONDERFUL VALENTINE’S DAY!

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An EXTRA-ordinary Love

As we all know a woman’s favorite holiday (well one of them) is just a few days away…you guessed it VALENTINE’S DAY!!! This is a day that we look forward to receive jewelry, chocolate candies, stuff animals, sweet kisses, flowers, balloons, an overabundance of love from our special someone. When I was single I absolutely hated this day. I remember in college spending the day cleaning my dorm room, blasting 112’s Part III album (one of my favs to date!!) crying because “I had no one to love me”. Or so I thought…

Looking back at the girl that I was back then, my heart aches for her and all the missed opportunities she had. What opportunities you ask? Well the Katesha back then was focused on finding love or as my man Jahiem would say “Looking for Love in all the WRONG places”. I was so zoned in on finding my “perfect guy” that I neglected THE Perfect Guy…my savior Jesus Christ. He was there with me all along…all those late nights of staying up crying wondering would I ever fall in love, would I get thru another broken heart; when He was right there beside me, with arms stretched wide waiting for me to fall in love with Him all over again. Does this story sound familiar? Okay so maybe it doesn’t speak to you directly, but maybe you know a girlfriend that has been in a similar if not the same situation.

There are so many examples of Jesus’ love for us, specifically in the Bible, but also in our everyday life. The best example of love that He showed was by giving up His life just for you and for me so that we would have a chance to live again. Wow all of that for just little ole me, let it sink in for a minute. How many times have we pushed Jesus aside, thinking oh I have time…I’ll get up and pray tomorrow, I promise…I’m going to stay up late tonight and get in my Word…Lord I’m going to reach out to the sister that I know needs help. How many times are we going to continue to ignore His love for us? We will stay up all night on the phone with our new boo, go the extra mile to show our husband that we really care, but yet will only give Jesus a Sunday morning praise, if even that. I know I’m laying it on you pretty heavy today, but as I type I too am convicted.

“Jesus said to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment.” ~Matthew 22:37-38 NKJV

There you have it right there. No further explanation needed. So let’s make a girlfriend pack. On February 14, 2015 (and every day) I make a vow to have the BEST Valentine’s Day yet with the bridegroom (did you catch that?). I vow to not focus solely on my current relationship status, but to put forth greater effort to show my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ just how much I love Him. Is He not deserving? I mean He only grants us new grace and mercies every single morning. He blesses us with His extraordinary no better yet His EXTRA-ordinary love daily. The least we could do is whisper a simple “I love you” to Him in return.

So are you with me Girlfriend?

Wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day!!! I love you and Jesus does too! 😀

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