We all remember the hit sitcom Living Single, from the 90’s, which followed the story of 4 girlfriends. (Common theme lol) Remember Khadijah the CEO and founder of Flava Magazine, Maxine Shaw, Attorney at Law, Regine the buyer for a boutique destined to find her millionaire, and we can’t forget cousin Sinclaire, receptionist turned actor. This was (and still is) one of my favorite shows from back in the day. I have recently been watching reruns of the show and although there was some comic relief in the show, I’m grasping a different concept from the lives of these women. (Here I go being deep again lol)
When this show originally aired I was a child or teenager and never really paid any attention to the significance of the lives these characters portrayed. Here we have 4 single, successful, professional 20-something year old women. Did you catch that? Yes all 4 characters were in their late 20s and making major moves! This made me reflect over my life and the things that I may or may not have accomplished while “living single”. I wish that I would have taken advantage of my singlehood and truly lived it up before becoming a “Mrs”. Now don’t get me wrong I love my husband and our life as a family, but I also see missed opportunities that I should have done before the commitment and responsibilities of wife and mother came along. In my 20’s, I was soooooooooooooooo focused on running behind a man and wishing, hoping, praying that he would make me his wife and we would ride off on our white horse and live happily ever after. Umph! If I could go back in time and talk to the Katesha back then I would definitely knock some sense into her!
My Pastor often tells the singles in our church that these are “the best years of your life”. This is the season you should take to really “do you” and enjoy your freedom, especially if you do not have any children. Let me give you an example. My sister is 27 years old, no babies, never been married, no boyfriend at this time. Sure she desires to get married and to have kids one day, but right now she’s more focused on bettering herself and dedicating her life to Kingdom business. She has her undergraduate degree, working on a graduate certificate program and recently purchased a hot and sassy Mercedes CLK 350. (Not tooting her horn, but TOOT TOOT!!!) I will not put all her business out there yet, as she’ll share her testimony as a guest blogger at a later date, but I just wanted to share a small piece of her single life. Not that I have anything to do with it (lol) but I admire and am so proud of the woman that she has become. We are a lot alike, yet different at the same time. My goals and aspirations were all in the wrong areas at that age and I thank God that she has gone in the opposite direction, not to make the same mistakes as her big sister. She has already and will have accomplished so much by the time the Lord blesses her to put “Mrs.” in front of her name.
I guess that is what stands out most to me about my sister and what I want to encourage each single lady reading this post with today. Optimize your time now before moving into the next season of life. Stop focusing on where you believe that you should be at your current age (like me, I had a timeline of when I would get married, have a baby and where I would be in my career…smh) and start appreciating the place that God has you at right now. Don’t worry about what the next sister is doing, or when your time will come. I’m not saying that you can’t do this type of stuff after marriage and children; you can, just with different limitations. Your time is now! Have you been considering going back to school? DO IT! Want to travel? BOOK THAT TRIP! Picture yourself in that new fancy whip? BUY IT HONEY!!
Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. ~ Philippians 4:6 AMP
Did you read that? If you truly desire something, talk to God about it and if it is in His will for your life…guess what…you will have it. You all just don’t know how I wish I could turn back the hands of time and some of the things I would change so that I would be a better me today. I don’t want you to have that same regret. Enjoy your singleness, it’s only temporary and God has a reason why He has not allowed you to be found by your ‘Adam’ yet. Focus on Jesus first, strengthen your relationship with Him and thru Him be the best you that you can be during this season. So stopping putting things off and go for them NOW!! The possibilities are endless girlfriends!!!
Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams] ~ Ephesians 3:20 AMP