Month: June 2015

#TMBT What can you think of?!?!?!?

Hello!!!! Happy Tuesday my good peoples. How was the weekend???? Wish it was still here huh?!?!? Me too! I had an awesome weekend filled with youth and teens celebrating the love of God through mime and dance. Thanks Tasha for the invite! Outside of that, the weather was great (minus the occasional rain storms lol), had some good family time, and loved up on the newest member of the family. Gotta love new babies…they just smell so baby fresh lol. Did I mention, I had the chance to see the “gems”, “sweet pea”, and “the boys”. I love the kids lol. So I wanted to kinda keep the tone going a little from Tamara’s #FBF and do a #TakeMeBackTuesday! Now we’re all 80’s babies around here and we all can relate to this list created by BuzzFeed, or check off things on this list, and even the things in the video. I mean really…who hasn’t drawn the stick “S” before or even that ol’ skool text message?!?!?!? I could go on and on and on…the list would never end lol. If you’re an 80’s baby too (I’ll take early 90’s too lol), what are some things that just take you back?????

TMBT

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#FBF Jam with Me

Happy Friday Ladies! And in true Friday spirit lets do alil reminiscing or in hashtag fashion #FlashbackFriday and talk about those tunes, grooves, and banging beats of the early 2000s. I must admit I’m a sucker for a hot beat and in my late high school years and throughout college (and at times even now lol) I could be caught in a serious dance break right by myself in the car. I can recall those moments of when the song would go off, thinking to myself- I wonder how crazy I was looking LOL. Hey, don’t act like I’m the only one! So here’s a list of a few jams from 2000-2004 you could catch me grooving to.

2000-2001:

  • Shake It Fast – Mystikal
  • Get Ur Freak On – Missy Elliott
  • Let Me Blow Ya Mind – Eve
  • Peaches & Cream – 112
  • Bootylicious – Destiny’s Child

2002:

  • Oh Boy – Cam’ron
  • Hot in Herre – Nelly
  • Dilemma – Nelly ft. Kelly Rowland
  • Foolish – Ashanti

2003:

  • Never Leave You (Uh Oh) – Lumidee
  • Crazy In Love – Beyonce
  • No Letting Go – Wayne Wonder
  • Get Low – Lil Jon
  • Shake Ya Tailfeather – Nelly

2004-2005:

  • Yeah – Usher
  • Lean Back – Terror Squad
  • Move Ya Body – Nina Sky
  • 1 Thing – Amerie
  • Lose Control – Missy Elliott

So now JAM WITH ME and enjoy the rest of your Friday and have a wonderful weekend!

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No Mistake

By now we’ve all seen this mess all over the social media, the news and amongst various conversations with peers and colleagues. Bruce Jenner…”Call Me Caitlyn”. Now when I first saw the pictures on my Facebook feed, I was thinking that it was a joke and that someone had made a meme or screenshot after his 20/20 interview. Once I found out that it was real and that he is now identifying himself as a woman, I was immediately sickened. This has sparked so many debates and conversations and I felt that it was time to pen my views on this media identified “hot topic”.

Now I know nothing about Bruce Jenner outside of the fact that he is a former Olympian and is a part of the Kardashian clan. I did not watch the 20/20 interview because quite frankly I could care the less that yet another individual was getting the spotlight over a perverted personal decision. So he wants to be a woman now, who gives a flip that is not affecting my household in any form or fashion. What happened to the days when those that lived alternative lifestyles kept silent and lived private lives? These days it seems, if you let society tell it, that identifying yourself as a part of the LGBT community is the new normal and we (Biblically normal) have become the minority. Ummmm negative! Last time I checked the Bible is RIGHT and the demonic spirit that dwells within Bruce Jenner and the LGBT community is ALL WRONG!!

I truly despise hearing people say “I was born like this”. Say what? The God I serve, the God of the Bible, has never, ever made a mistake.

“But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female” (Mark 10:6)

It’s right there in clear black and white, He made them (us) male and female. That means if you were born a male, guess what no matter what you do to this fleshly body, in God’s eyesight you will always be a male.

“…the Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1Samuel 16:7)

Bruce you can call yourself Caitlyn all you want, just remember when your day comes to stand before the Lord in judgment, Caitlyn will be null and void! I just really don’t understand. He has fathered children, shoot he’s a grandfather. My heart breaks for his grandchildren who have to deal with and try to comprehend how and why Granddad is now Grandma. Not just for his grandchildren, but for all children that have to grow up in this sickening world and have their minds tainted with idiots like Bruce Jenner. You can’t even watch one good clean show on TV without there being a transgendered character or reference to homosexuality/lesbianism. It’s a disgrace and I’m so over it!

A friend of mine posted on Facebook that she was insulted that Bruce wants to claim her title as woman when only his outward appearance has changed. He does not have any female internal organs, cannot carry nor birth a child, has never and will never experience menstrual cramps, ovulation cramps or contractions…just to name a few. I couldn’t agree with her more! It is VERY insulting that he is getting praise for claiming to be something that we as women have done since the creation of Eve! After almost 24 hours of labor, 2 failed epidurals which resulted in natural child labor of a 6 week premature baby, going back and forth to the hospital for 2 weeks several times a day to look at my baby in an incubator while still trying to heal and recuperate from labor…where’s my ESPY? Shoot! Speaking of which, how dare ESPN award this fool for being what THEY describe as “courageous.” What exactly did he do that was so brave? Last time I checked there was nothing brave about a man wearing a wig, getting breast implants, chopping off his penis and calling himself a lady.

“A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this” (Deuteronomy 22:5).

I’m sorry but there are so many other worthy individuals of such an award that are actually living up to the word. All of the many men and women that serve or have served our country in the military, countless individuals that are making POSITIVE impacts in our communities, blue collar employees (such as trash men/women) that work day in and day out tirelessly without ever being recognized…yet society decides to uplift a 65 year old man that is simply crazy and confused. So Bruce no matter what you may “feel” or what you consider doing to make yourself “happy” remember that my God has never and will never make a mistake…

“Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.” (Psalm 139:13-16 MSG)

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Year One…

Happy Tuesday!!!!!! I hope that everyone enjoyed their weekend and spent it celebrating the father figure in your life! For those that know me know that I don’t necessarily “celebrate” holidays. I might do something simple like a card, but nothing major. I believe I acknowledge people and shower them with love all throughout the year; so why just dedicate one day?!?!?!? This rings true with Father’s Day. Being raised in a single parent home, Father’s Day was almost like just another day. Didn’t do many activities (that I can remember) or really celebrated it. Now don’t get me wrong or it twisted, I know who my daddy is and love him dearly, he just wasn’t around as much as I may have wanted him to be growing up. You know having two girls, you would want to be a daddy’s girl, but I didn’t get that lol my sister did since she was first-born! Needless to say, I’m still a mama’s girl 🙂 Maybe my perception will change when I am married again and have children. With that being said, it only adds to the process of grief. Knowing that your husband will never have the opportunity to experience having children of his own, see his reaction in the delivery room, read them bedtime stories, be their saving grace when they’ve done something wrong, and all the things in between is always a hard pill to swallow.  I pray that God continue to keep angels around me and allow me to raise children one day. Though I’m without a husband, the village that I have, I know they’ll be in good hands!

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
Psalm 127:3

They say “It takes a village to raise a child”! Until next time…

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A Daddy’s Love

I’m such the daddy’s girl. I get the butterflies in my tummy feeling when I see him. He makes me smile uncontrollably. I know he loves me more than I could ever really imagine. The older I get, the more God reveals to me about my daddy, and my love for him simply remains the same. I thank God for choosing him as my daddy. We have a bond that only a father and a daughter could share. I’m so much like him its scary lol. I enjoy putting things together, going to drag races, and watching sports. (Hmm, maybe that’s why God gave me boys LOL). I look forward to each moment I’m able to spend with him. He’s my daddy!

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And along came a great, handsome fella that has shown me what a daddy’s love looks like through the eyes of our boys. They have this crazy, ridiculous bond that at times I feel doesn’t even come close to mine. (I might be slightly jealous-hey don’t judge me) He shows them the responsibilities of what being a Christian man means, and how to love your wife. He makes for sure there’s never a doubt of how much he loves each of them. I admire him and I’m so grateful to be his wife.

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Wishing a Happy Father’s Day to my Daddy and my Husband!

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Can the Saints say Amen

You know that feeling when you’re somewhere in public and somebody takes off running…..and you find yourself doing a quick step to join, just cause. That’s me in a store when I see a “good” deal in someone elses cart. For instance take the kids exchange (a kids consignment that is held in a huge warehouse) when those doors open, people be running!!! I mean running. Never forget my first time going, one of the Girlfriends and I stood in a line wrapped around the building like we was in line for the club during Homecoming at A&T SU, AGGIE PRIDE!!! ok back to the subject, the line BE LOOONNNG, lol. We had no idea what we were getting ourselves into, babies carried all types of ways on their mothers, wagons of all sizes, empty tall laundry baskets with bungee cords attached at this consignment. We felt unprepared, and honestly we was. These ladies and men (There was some dad’s in the house too) raced to specific items, I found myself following them, lol. The way they were running I just couldn’t tell if we were running from something or to something. Lets just say I’ve been going ever since, oh and I’m prepared every time.

For as long as I can remember I have enjoyed shopping. I mean I really enjoy shopping. Kids grow so fast so SOME things I don’t believe need to be brand new. With that being said, when I do decide to buy I go bananas over sales, red dot, clearance and the good ol’ “hook-ups”. I promise you, something comes over me and I am in my element and focused when I shop, yes it is my therapy in any given moment. When I was in high school working in retail, I would buy things because it was on sale. One time I bought baby clothes just because it was an awesome buy with not having any kids or even knowing any babies to wear it. Still to this day I would buy cat food if it was a good deal, mind you I have a dog, God is working on me. Target lately has been my store for a few different things; hair products, cleaning items, kids clothes, home décor, just to name a few. I go straight for the clearance end caps and I know where every last one is. The store is NOT left until I have been by all the clearance isles. At times items that really aren’t low enough for me gets placed in the wrong spots so I just make a mental note and keep coming back to check when the price has come down, bad? I know.

So with all that being said, since I am planning on moving out of my parents house, can the Saints say Amen, I know my parents are, lol. I am actively trying to STOP buying things just because it’s on sale. When I pick something up, I am now practicing this whole thought process.
1. Do I really need it
2. If I’m thinking of it for someone else, do they really need it? Do they really need me to get it for them? Is it a gift or will they be paying me back?
3. If determined I need it…..do I need it now? Can it wait?
4. Can I get it cheaper? Where can I get it cheaper?

Now lets say I have determined that I WANT it COULD use it later (once moved) and I buy it, where the heck am I gonna put it?

So, learning that I don’t have to buy it just because it’s on sale is a work in progress, some days are better than others.

Any of you ladies experience this battle?

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Daddy’s Girl

“Mommy, where’s Daddy?” “Mommy, I wanna see Daddy!” Something I hear quite frequently on a daily basis. If Hubby does not arrive home around his scheduled time, Sweet Pea is not having it! Oh and don’t let her fall asleep before he gets home and arise the next morning and he’s already left for work…insert whines and cries here! LOL! You guessed it…Sweet Pea is an all-around Daddy’s Girl and I love it!! But wait I can’t put it all on her because he’s just as crazy about her as she is about him! These two are the best of friends and I think it’s just the cutest thing ever!

You see my experience was not quite the same. As you’ve probably already noticed I have yet to mention anything about my father in past blog posts. My dad was called home at the age of 51, I was only 8 and my sister was 3. Being that I was so young I really do not have many memories of my father, he and my mom were never married. I really only have 1 vague memory of him leaving the house around my 8th birthday and telling me that he would be back soon as he had a gift for me. Sadly I don’t remember ever receiving that gift, but instead received the news from my mom that he had gone on to Heaven. At that age I didn’t understand much just that would not see my father anymore. I don’t remember crying or feeling sad until I got older and realized there was somewhat of a void in my life. Don’t get me wrong, my mom did an outstanding job in raising my sister and me, as I’ve told you before in Dear Mama. It was not her fault that my father made the decisions that he did, however I often wonder what life would have been like if the Lord would have allowed him to live. So many questions run through my mind, but one that stands out the most is if I would have been “his girl?” Yeah sure he has 2 other daughters besides me, but I can’t help but wonder what our relationship would have been like. Sometimes it’s hard for me to even talk about him because at times I really don’t know what to say. I try to avoid asking questions not to offend or bring up hurtful memories, but I still sit and wonder “what if.” To be honest, as bad as it may sound, I think it’s just easier to not mention or think about him at all. That way I don’t have to face the reality of never really knowing him or having a relationship with him.

“Honor your father and mother”–which is the first commandment with a promise –that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”  (Ephesians 6: 2-3)

For a long time I would skip the first part and go straight to mother as that is all that I know, right? WRONG! Regardless of what happened all those years ago, regardless of how I felt at 8 and how I feel now at 32, he was still my father I must give honor where honor is due. Yeah Daddy may not be here anymore but he’s still that, Daddy. I still find it weird even using that term “Daddy.” Nonetheless I had/have to stop focusing on the “what if” and start focusing on the One that has been there the entire time to fill the void of an earthy father, my Heavenly Father. Those talks that I desire to have with a father, I can have with Him. The feeling of “I made my Daddy proud”, I can still feel with my Heavenly Father. And yes those moments of discipline and correction, even from Heaven will sting just as bad if not worse!

Fast forward to now…I think this is one of many reasons why I love watching the relationship between Sweet Pea and Hubby continue to grow. I know that God makes no mistakes and just maybe He has allowed me to experience the concept of a daddy’s girl not only through my relationship with Him but also through the relationship of my husband and daughter. (Although sometimes I get a little jealous when she prefers him over me lol) I pray that as she gets older that the closeness that they share is never broken and it is a bond that she will always cherish.

This Father’s Day not only will I celebrate my relationship with my Heavenly Father, my Spiritual Father (my Pastor), my loving Husband, and my Mama (yes we buy her a card on Father’s day too) but I will also take time out to honor my late father. With that being said…

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Happy Father’s Day Daddy, from “Your Girl”

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Hubby and Sweet Pea
Summer 2013

Summertime Eats!

Hi ladies! Happy Tuesday…I hope the week is treating you well with this 100 degree weather and it’s not even summer yet!!!!!! I hope everyone enjoyed the kickoff of our first annual summer beauty series and our guest vlogger MzNaturalLife…she offered up some pretty good tips to stay GLAMed up this summer. In staying GLAMed, it all starts within and work its way outward. So let’s talk about this summer heat and what to eat. I tend to try and eat lighter in the summertime (which I think everyone does) just so I don’t feel wiped out when I’m done. The only problem I have is figuring out what that “lighter” option is besides salads lol. So since I decided to start cooking again, I tried a new veggie tonight….drum roll please…..spaghetti squash!!!!!!!!! I’m always skeptical and hesitant when trying new things; but can we say delicious! Yea I cheated a little and cooked it in the microwave, but the butter, garlic and Italian herb sauce sprinkled with a little Parmesan was on point! This will be a go to substitute pasta for those nights when I’m feeling starchy. So overall I didn’t do too bad today…banana and grapefruit for breakfast, zesty sriracha carrot hummus and pita chips (and something else lol) for lunch, and spaghetti squash and salad for dinner…go me lol. Only if I could find some extra protein I’d be doing great!

So luv’s, what’s some of your summertime favs? Until next time…keep it breezy!!!!!!

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