Month: November 2015


Hi ladies. I hope each of you had a great Thanksgiving! Indeed its Friday and I started to feel guilty about allowing another Friday to go by and not say something. Truth is, life has taken its toll and the desire to write and inspire others just hasn’t found its way to this blog for me, when I’m in need of some inspiring myself.

In life we (I) can walk through daily life with blinders on. Only seeing that which I want to see and imagining the rough areas to be “okay” when truly things are falling apart. I can convince myself that this is just a bad day and tomorrow will bring the blinders of ignoring what happened the day before. I can use blinders to to blur the reality of whats going on around me. I can use blinders to shield my heart from true emotions. Yes, I understand that this is a horrible thing and to just keep things honest I am embarrassed by it, but its all true. I use blinders.


So just know that your GIRLFRIEND. is working on it. Its been hard for some to accept it because they’re so used to them, that they can’t tell the real from the fake. They simply don’t know if this is just a phase or a completely new me (and how long it will last). A part of my healing/deliverance is to accept the reality – I’m a imperfect Christian, that has gone through life with blinders.

Ladies your GIRLFRIEND. could really use your prayers and support. So please in your private time with God whisper my name (Tamara).

I thank you all in advance for your prayers and hope that you have a wonderful weekend. Thanks for your time and lending ears/eyes.

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One Step Closer…

Happy Wednesday Girlfriends! I apologize in advance for my post being short in length today. My final major project for class is due this week and I have yet to start! Pray my strength!

I was going thru some of my old posts and ran across Moving Forward from March. As I read thru the post, it brought back so many memories and truly showed me how far my family has come just from the beginning of this year. We aren’t officially home owners yet, (somebody scream YET) but we are working hard and getting closer and closer to our goal. So I can stop right there and praise my Father just for that! Thank you Lord for being one stop closer!!! Hallelujah and Amen! The process has not been easy, but I do not expect it to be. Anything worth having in life you should have to work for. If it came easy you wouldn’t appreciate it as much, right?

As this year is quickly coming to an end, I challenge you to reflect back over 2015 and see how far you’ve come. Have you accomplished those goals you set in January? If not are you getting closer to them or have you just forgotten about them altogether? It’s not too late to pick them back up! Re-evaluate, come up with a strategy, start vision casting for 2016. Then activate your faith, put your trust in the Almighty Father, and know that if it is in His perfect will for your life, then it shall come to pass!

Then the Lord answered me and said, “Write the vision and engrave it plainly on [clay] tablets so that the one who reads it will run. ~Habakkuk 2:2 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

 sig KT

One Step Closer

Mr. & Mrs. Phillips, Future Homeowners

#FMF – Yummy Recipes

#FMF: Yummy Recipes

Yummy Recipes – (of food) delicious, a set of instructions for preparing a particular dish, including a list of the ingredients required.

TGIF ladies! As you know, it is 12 days until Thanksgiving Day! This year I’ll be helping my mom cook at her house. I know I know, I just recently moved and it would only seem fitting that we cook at my house BUT there’s just something about being at my mom’s house and cooking that I feel is almost a tradition in itself! I get so excited just thinking about all the wonderful eats & treats and being in the kitchen with my mom. We start on Thanksgiving Eve with prepping the turkey for overnight/early morning baking and we go ahead and prep all the other odds-and-ins (such as dicing onions and peppers, boiling eggs, etc.) that will make cooking the Thanksgiving fixings a breeze the next morning. The kitchen conversations are always memories of my grandmothers (both deceased) and how they used to cook for the holidays. Then once my brother comes, the conversations shift to mapping out our Black Friday plans of attack LOL!

But today, I want YOU my dear girlfriends to “fill me” with your most yummy recipes! I’m always looking for new recipes. And just to get this Yummy Recipe Exchange started, I want to share with you this oh-so-yummy recipe that’s a go-to in my book! Many of you have seen it before anytime you’ve purchased Mueller’s brand elbow noodles.



So please, please, please join me on this Yummy Recipe Exchange!

Hope you have a wonderful weekend!

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“I am a Tera Boll Ritr”

Good day I am back again, this week I have a few questions related to parenting and school. So yesterday I was helping my six year old with her homework. Every month she comes home with a monthly homework calendar in which she can complete in her own time. With that being said, sometimes we follow the calendar day by day and other times we may complete a few days worth at a time (usually depends on her mood and the little one). Last night she had the task of completing a reading response to a book she had just read. The book reading, no big deal, she has been a strong reader, but the writing………is a different story. Though she is six, I try to encourage her to use her resources (besides me) when trying to spell, for example, using the book she has read, the Ipad and even my phone (she has definitely asked Siri a few times how to spell something. Question #1: is that too much?!?! My sour patch kid (you have to know her to understand the true reference) does a great job spelling phonetically, though she does not read this way. Let me explain, with writing the word MOVE she may write it as M-U-V or M-O-O-V, but in reading she will read it correctly. As the sole person helping with homework I find that I am getting so frustrated with this. I found myself saying, “Hunay you just read this word, why would you spell it like this?” which at this point, homework is not productive, not only have I hurt her feelings, but to her, I also took a jab at her confidence. Question #2: what can I do to help the homework process? Personally, writing has ALWAYS been a challenge for me, and I HATE proof reading my own stuff. I will see what I want to see, (hey, that applies to my life too sometimes, IJS) so this may hinder my ability to help her too. Perhaps she’s just distracted during homework time, there is often a 2 year old little boy hanging from her chair or snatching her pencil. Which I do try to get her set up and instructions given with homework first and then find something for him to do, but often times I’m juggling them both. Lets just say at the end of homework time yesterday while I was on the kitchen floor with the little prince doing fridge phonics, I received this paper airplane letter.


Anyone with experience or tips please helps us!!!!


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Faith Walk

I was going to go a completely different route with my post this week, but never could sit down and put the words on paper…now I know why. Something else needed to be said this week, I needed to pencil out my frustrations, start practicing what I preach so to speak, and truly take a big step in my faith walk.

Faith Walk

This week I was hit with a whammy of a test. I’m looking back like where did that come from? Deep breath, okay you can do this. I was just getting myself together and making adjustments as needed and then wham here comes part 2 of the test. First instinct is always to fall apart, have a woo is me moment, asking the Lord why me? Why now? You know all that I’ve been through and I just really can’t deal with this right now. Or more like I do not want to deal with this right now, not today. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm….. Mind you I said first instinct.

Now here comes Sista Emotional and she’s turning on the tears and the fear BIG TIME!!! Get it out girl and then get yourself together! Inhale…Exhale…Breath… Now is not the time to get bent all out of shape and have a pity party, now is the time to activate that faith that you speak so strongly of. Now is the time to really put your money where your mouth is. You had your moment yes, now it’s time to let that go and turn to your Father in Heaven and allow Him to strengthen you, keep you and give you the courage to press through the test.

My Pastor just spoke about drinking from your cup in his message on Sunday. In Matthew 26:42 Jesus prayed a sincere prayer “O My Father, if this cup cannot pass from Me unless I drink it, Your will be done”. Here Jesus is speaking of his soon to be brutal death and crucifixion. He in the fleshly man did not want to go through with it, but His spirit man knew there was purpose to be fulfilled and therefore He surrendered His will to His Father’s and drank from His cup. At this moment I need to pray the same prayer. Father if this cup cannot pass from me in this season unless I drink from it, Your will be done. I made the declaration on Sunday that whatever cup was sat out before me, no matter the size, I would drink from it and surrender my will to my Father’s. I just didn’t know He was going to put me to the test so quickly lol!

Although I do not know how this situation is going to work out, I am confident in knowing that my Father has it all in control and that it is just a part of His purpose and plan for my life. And now is where I take the spot light off of me and flip it to you. I encourage you to drink from your cup, no matter what it is, trust that our Father in Heaven has poured exactly what He wanted you to have. And after you take that first sip, close your eyes, swallow, feel it flowing through your veins…now open your eyes, put a smile on your face and walk boldly in your faith, I promise you will not be disappointed.

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT

#FMF: Desire

Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen

Psalm 37:4

Who Are You?

That’s the question Christina Marie asked yesterday in her blog post entitled Tunnel Vision. After reading her post, there was the question- Who are you? I sat in awkward silence for a minute and then thought well shoot do I even know me? I mean I know that I’m the daughter of Antoinette & Parker, big sister to Chad, wife to Jonathan, mother to Jaidyn, Jordyn, & Gavin, and best friend to my GIRLFRIENDS. But really who am I? I know what I enjoy – learning about Jesus, singing, designing, and planning. I know that I’m a people pleaser. So now what? Does this define who I am? When I stare in the mirror am I proud? Honestly, heck no! But rather than beat myself up in this post on all the things that make me unhappy about myself, I’ll flip it and talk about my desires. What I desire to be… a better Christian, a more lovable & enjoyable wife and mother (admittedly I’m the serious one). I desire a healthier, more attractive weight, my own successful business, and downright wealth. I desire to not be hindered by anyone or anything when it comes to the things that family and I want to go and do. I certainly desire that money will no longer be a factor. But does any of this define me? I guess today is just one of those days where I’m like Lord I need you! I’m just not feeling myself these days- help me! And truthfully I believe He will. I desire the day that I will look back at this post and it becomes my testimony, on how God brought me out and granted me the desires of my heart.

Delight yourself in the Lord, And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart. ~Psalm 37:4

What are the desires of your heart? Do you know who you are? Why wait another 8 weeks to start embarking on New Year’s resolutions when you can talk to God right here, right now about it? He’s always listening and He desires our attention.

I pray this hasn’t dampened anyone’s day but motivated you to start speaking from your heart to God. As I close this post, I’m already feeling better, feeling more alive, feeling determined.

*special note: If you desire to have the GIRLFRIENDS. pray with you on any situation and/or matter please submit your prayer request to the Let Us Pray tab at the top of the blog.

Have a blessed weekend ladies!

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What Have You Missed?


The fight between me and the blankets starts early tonight. The hot, cold, fan on fan off entertainment of the evening as I attempt to restore the energy the day before drained me of, I “sleep”. Excited about this extra hour of rest I so deeply deserve on this Sunday morning. The alarm goes off of course just when the sleep was getting good, when the battles and entertainment of the right temperature settled. I hit the snooze button on my phone. Ugh…..alarm again, this time its my second alarm, I dread over sleeping for work. That alarm one more time, YES!!!!! 2 more minutes, (yes, I’m that girl). Finally I get up, do my morning routine before work, as I’m locking my door I notice my “little old man” neighbor isn’t awake yet hmmm…..I proceed to the car. As I make my way to the main road I check my clock in the car, I intentionally have set it 4-5 min fast it helps with my tardiness. So it roughly matches my phone’s time. I think to myself, Oh wow, I didn’t know my car will automatically reset my clock, must be that last service update I received at the dealership. I make my way to the highway and of course it’s not busy at all, it usually isn’t on an early Sunday morning, but I found the cars to be more scarce today, I take a look at the time again, I’m good on time, wait is this the right time?! I laugh, yea it’s the right time, your phone does the switch automatically. I just keep driving as Dory’ s little voice plays “Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming”, you’d only understand if you’ve seen “Finding Nemo”. Anyways I get off at my exit and turn into the parking garage. What!? why the heck is the guard down? I pull out my badge and wave it in front of the pad around and around I go, I hit the third floor and see a FEW people getting out of their cars, again not unusual it is Sunday. Fourth floor………..EMPTY, now this is unusual, I park close to the stairwell and now I am concerned. I look at my time on my phone again, I try to go on WRAL and check the time there, I only see the current outside temperature and that took forever to come up, Sprint and it’s service. I turn off the phone and then turn it back on. 5:27am stuns my screen, no freaky way!!!!! My phone didn’t reset the time, I’m at work an hour early, no point in going back home to lay down, though my bed would love to have me. After the frustration dies down, I laugh at myself, another car pulls up beside me, I find myself seeping into my chair trying not to be seen, but then think to myself, heck, you made the same mistake I did, LOL. I reach for my makeup bag, planning to do a full beat face since I have all this extra time. As my eye shadow brush strokes my eyelid I ask the Lord, why? why would you have me wake up sooooo early, knowing how tired I was?…….I received this very clearly, PAY ATTENTION, DON’T MISS THE SIGNS. I know this particular situation, arriving somewhere an hour early in minute, but the lesson is BIG. How often do we see the signs and ignore them? At times we even have a “feeling” an intuition about something, discernment and still miss it or chose to ignore them. Until next time good people, PAY ATTENTION, DON’T MISS THE SIGNS.


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