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Hello ladies! Lately I’ve been learning how to put on my “big girl panties” and do those things which God requires of me. One of those things being to choose to forgive! No sin (mistake) is more or less worthy of forgiveness than another. Forgiveness is allowing yourself permission to heal and to be happy regardless of the darkness you’re facing. In order to forgive you have to view things from a different perspective, meaning instead thinking “this is just too painful or hard to let go” you have to tell yourself “well because this is so painful and hard, I must let it go.” When you forgive you take on a new role, the switch is flipped from victim to survivor. You are now a survivor of your darkness. When you begin to walk through your life as a survivor you instantly are relieved of the hurt, pain, and bitterness. It’s all a choice, you can either choose to be happy or choose to be unhappy. Forgiveness involves giving up on the hopes of having a better past. The past is now gone. You have to give up on the “shoulds” because the “should” is like dreaming upon a fantasy and not living and accepting the reality. You can’t keep thinking of how things “ought to be” because that’s not reality. You have to love a person as who they are- flaws and all, not as you wish they were. I recently read a statement, that in the process of forgiveness, every true attempt in forgiving strengthens you. For every small effort you make gives you huge rewards. And that the miracle of forgiveness is that there comes a moment when you will no longer remember what you thought you could never forget. The Bible reminds us in Matthew 6:14-15, For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men of their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him [drop the issue, let it go], so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you, your transgressions and wrongdoings [against Him and others].- Mark 11:25 (AMP)

So in order for you to be right with the Father it is necessary to forgive the sins of others. Ladies, whatever you may be going through or have faced in life- betrayal, neglect, abuse, infidelity, etc. you can still choose to FORGIVE. There’s no hurt nor pain that God can’t heal. He wants you to seek forgiveness so that He can forgive you. It’s an amazing feeling knowing that we have the option of forgiveness because some of the things we’ve faced in life is just too unbearable for us to continue to carry around. God doesn’t want us to carry those burdens. Psalm 55:22 says, Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. So today, will you choose to forgive?

Have a wonderful day (walking in forgiveness)!

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6 comments on “I Choose to Forgive”

    • Yes Natasha it will! And it also allows you to hear and see clearly from God- to allow His blessings to follow in your life.

  1. That’s awesome you chose to forgive. It’s definitely easier to do when you don’t know all it is you’re forgiving. How do you keep forgiving when more of the story keeps getting reveal? Or is it just easier to continue to wear blinders?

    • Well Fran, I certainly understand that everyone’s circumstances are different but the power and deliverance from forgiveness is all the same. If you want to choose to forgive, then does the unknown really matter? If you are going to truly forgive, then does the rest of the story matter? Maybe in this case you have to learn to forgive each part of the puzzle separately until ALL is forgiven. Life is never easier when you wear blinders, because when the blinders finally come off the damage is already done. But if you face your challenges head on with God you can do and overcome the impossible!

      • In a “friend” of mine’s situation, I do believe knowing the rest of the story mattered alot. If I can share: my friend was cheated on and she chose to forgive him. That’s a story many share right? Well when she chose to forgive she did so on the basis of the information given to her. She believed it to be, let’s say, a pure “physical” affair. The rest of the story was revealed later down the road and it was so much more, and the more she knew of the “truth” the harder it became to forgive. He had given his heart to another. In essence, I guess you can say he was in love with two women.

        See I’m a believer in forgiveness because it’s truly for the person forgiving and not the one being forgiven. But there’s a difference in forgiving and being a fool. One can forgive without placing yourself in the position to keep being hurt. So maybe not knowing would’ve been better but not “wanting” to know is choosing to wear blinders. What do you think?

  2. Hi Fran,
    I just had to jump in on this. Us GIRLFRIENDS have discussed this topic of forgiveness a lot. I will say forgiveness, personally, is not my strong suit. Sometime ago, I would be offended then would instantly forgive and I found that the assaulter just keep doing the same thing (wasn’t true repentance). So then I went to the extreme saying “no one is going to hurt me again”. So I hear you when you say there is a difference in forgiving and being a fool. Heck, I’m that girl that wants to know it all, I want details, the depth of the situation does matter, BUT not everyone is like that. Honestly, the situation like you described your “friend” was in, would she even get the truth if she asked? Everyone is different and their threshold and circumstances are different. Forgiving does not always mean reconciliation.

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