Go best friend! That’s my best friend! LOL if you have ever looked at those videos on YouTube they are quite hilarious (in my opinion)! And while on the subject, let me tell you about the FRIENDS God has given me. The more I seek after God and grow closer to Him the more He blesses me with FRIENDS. Not those sometime-y chicks or only here for special occasions types; I’m speaking of Good Godly FRIENDS! The ones that will stand up in courage beside me. That’ll call me out and confront my sin. The ones that’ll hold me up when I’m broken down. The ones that’ll pray for me without my asking, that’ll talk to God on my behave. That intercede for me when I just can’t go to God on my own. Do you have these types of friends? I thank God for these FRIENDS. And although I may not always express my appreciation in the manner I deem necessary, I’m truly grateful for each and every one of them. I love my “friendship” support system. It has groomed me into a better Christian and friend to others. These FRIENDS push me when I’ve given up hope, teach me what the Word says about my situations, they live out life and share their personal testimonies with me as encouragement. With these FRIENDS, I’m in a judgement free zone – they know I have flaws and are willing to help me with them. God gave me FRIENDS who are different because that’s the way He knew I would I grow. So to all my FRIENDS, I love you more than words could express, I cherish our special bonds and I look forward to seeing what God has in store for us all!
Thank you for being a FRIEND!
Scrolling through social media I came across today’s scripture moment…
Have you ever had someone in your life go through some tough times or difficult situations…or maybe that someone was you? Have you taken the time to pray for that someone in and through their situation? As Christians, when one suffer or hurt or grieve, we all endure the pain. We’re supposed to carry the burdens of each other. Today, I charge you with fulfilling one of Christ’ laws to carry that burden with your brother, sister, friend, or neighbor. Connect with that person and help with their load. Are you your sister and brother’s keeper?
From time to time, I have these moments, that I once believed was “just me” when on the outside I appear to “have it together” and a smile on my face, but on the inside I’m SCREAMING. I love my children deeply, but some days I don’t feel like being an adult, or a mother for that matter. Some days I miss being able to take a shower without little hands pulling the shower curtain back just to make sure I didn’t go too far. Or to simply sit on the toilet without the both of them joining me as if I need moral support. Some days I just want to lay in bed all day, watching adult t.v. shows (remember I’m a fan of ratchet t.v.) and eating a full plate without half of my food being eaten by the littles that suddenly become hungry again after their two plates. Some days having the sole responsibility for how two other people end up is a bit much. Even as I have these thoughts and type them, a part of me feels guilty. Is this normal? Should I feel this way? What about those “perfect” moms? At times I feel like I have to make a conscious effort to be a “good mom”. I don’t necessarily feel like it came “natural” to me. Shoot…half the time I’m making things up as I go. The crazy part about it is, despite feeling this way at times, when the children are away, I have no clue what to do or I’m instantly eager to have them come back. The plus side, is they have no idea mommy doesn’t know what the heck she’s doing. They have no idea about my sleepless nights or the planning that’s involved in trying to have a smooth evening after school. So even on my “worst” day as a mom, I’m still their mommy and they believe I’m the only one that can drive this ship. So I began to pray and the Lord reminded me that He’s got me and them. He reminded me of when I sat at Planned Parenthood when I just found out I was expecting my first born (I will share that experience another time), that if I trust in Him, he will always have her, that WE would lack for nothing. To this day, God has not went back on that word. Now I may have my “whoa me” moments, but we lack for nothing. As I scrolled down my Facebook news feed, I saw this quote on My Motherboard page and I was inspired to share the thoughts of a Real Mother.
This past weekend was absolutely WONDERFUL!! It was just what the doctor ordered and then some! My hubby surprised me with a much needed spa experience for just me and him; that’s right ladies a couples massage!!!
Now I’ve had a massage before, but this experience was much different. Well for (1) it was with my love and (2) it was actually at a spa. Previously I’ve had one done at a massage therapist’s office but never at a spa! I’m talking robes, special slippers, relaxing music, fountains and chocolate fondue! We were both super excited to spend intimate time with one another because honestly we’ve failed recently in the dating category. It’s SO easy to get tied up in the duties of life and forget to take time out for just each other. No mommy, no daddy, just husband and wife! Can I go back now? Lol
During my hot stone massage (I highly recommend you get one if you’ve never had one!), I was SUPER relaxed almost to the point of falling asleep, but I fought those droopy eyes and took the time to reflect and pray. In that moment I was so happy and so in love and thanked the Lord for sending this guy my way. Not only did I show gratitude for my own relationship, but I also spent time praying for my sisters and family members that (1) they would be blessed to be found by their mate or (2) that their relationship would be strengthened or (3) that broken hearts would be mended and that they too could experience this thing called love. God did not create man to be alone and I am just crazy enough to believe that these desires will be met by God in His timing.
So today in closing, I want to leave you with this bit of encouragement. While going through life and when you have those moments of gratitude for the blessings in your personal life, don’t keep them all to yourself. Pray for that sister who may not have the same in that (1) she will find peace in her current situation (2) be patient enough to wait on the Lord and (3) that the desires of her heart will be granted if within the Lord’s will. Paying it forward doesn’t always have to involve monetary gifts; the spiritual seeds sown and invested in someone’s life will render so much more.
Peace & Blessings,
It’s Wednesday ladies and I found that I recently had an issue accessing my email. I’m not sure if I typed the wrong key when I first created the password, or if I just can’t simply remember. Then I thought, has my account been hacked? I ended up becoming frustrated, and made sure I took the proper security measures for everything that I could, my home, car, emails, the kids things and work stuff. Notice the things I mentioned………no where did I mention my heart. Is my heart not just as valuable, if not more than the things I make an effort in guarding? A few weeks ago I read a devotional from Wisdom Hunters about this very thing. The scripture was:
Lets emphasize the EVERYTHING part; everything we do flows from our heart. Think about your hearts’ current state, is it healthy? Not just from a medical or physiology stand point, but from a spiritual aspect. Is it filled with the Holy Spirit, does the fruits of the spirit dwell there? After all, this is the very place our hopes and dreams come from, yet the place that can be broken. The very place where we speak life into someone else, yet the place that rest forgiveness that steals life. The very place that houses and casts away fears. The devotional speaks on submitting our hearts to Christ and allowing Him to guard our hearts. What better security than God himself, but just like we do with our emails every once in a while maintenance is required, a heart check is required, what seems to be flowing from your Heart?
You brood of snakes! How could evil men like you speak what is good and right? For whatever is in your heart determines what you say. ~Matthew 12:34
A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. ~Luke 6:45.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things. ~Galatians 5:22-23
Lets work on getting our Hearts Right Ladies!!
Have you ever just had one of those moments when you realize that you haven’t taken the time out of your schedule to take care of you????? Well, with new and ever so changing things happening, that was me. It only took me a few weeks (with our NC snow and all) to take care of some much needed pampering. There’s nothing like getting that nice massage after manicuring those cuticles and having someone rub their fingertips against your scalp as you sit reclined in the shampoo bowl! YYYYYAAAASSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got a fresh do and an oh-so needed manicure. I get my hair done by professionals every now-and-again, but usually by natural hair stylists that use little heat. This time around, after 5+ years, I got something NEW! Check me out…but before you do and before you scroll any further, remember…this is No Judgment Zone lol. What are your guilty pleasures when it comes to pampering yourself?
Patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love
Love a word that comes and goes
But few people really know what it means to really love somebody
Love though the tears may fade away
I’m so glad your love will stay
’cause I love you and you show me
Jesus what it really means to love
The nights that I cry you love me
When I should have died you love me
I’ll never know why you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus
When all hope was gone you love me
You gave me a song that you love me
Now I can go on ’cause you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus
What it really means
God’s love for us is the greatest Love of all!
Happy (early) Valentine’s Day from your GIRLFRIENDS!
Happy Wednesday Ladies! As we all know this Sunday is Valentine’s Day, a day that is set aside to celebrate all things love and those that are closest to your heart. On this day women look forward to receiving candy, flowers, jewelry and cute stuffed animals from the man that they love. Most stores are covered in pink and red, tv commercials hint around to buying the perfect gift, and there we sit in anticipation of this great day.
Yeah this may be true for some, however it is not the case for all. I remember a time when I hated the thought of Valentine’s Day, when I would quote “Love is for Suckas” and spend the day drowning my sorrows in sad songs, junk food and excessive cleaning. I recently read a devotion from Proverbs 31 Ministries titled “When You Hate Valentine’s Day” which brought my mind back to the those “sad’ days where I felt like I would never find the love that I so desired. If I would have only read this devotion all those years ago and realized who my true first love was and just how much HE loved me instead of focusing on my pain then I would have understood further that it was all working for my good. There was a reason HE allowed that heartache in my life, HE was directing my attention back to HIM and the greatest love that I would ever experience…the love of JESUS CHRIST!
So today I want to leave you with that same message. If you are feeling like I or the author in the devotion was about Valentine’s Day…don’t. You may not see it or feel it today but there is a reason for your pain. Take your focus off of it and put it back on CHRIST who is standing before you with the best gift you could ever receive…HIS undying love, which girlfriends is the greatest gift of all…
Peace & Blessings,
Every once in a while us ladies need to do a company check. You brothers do too, but personally because of the nature of a woman we can tend to “keep” company a tad bit closer/longer than the brothas. So lets define a few terms we all have heard before. The first term is parasite. A parasite is defined by “an organism that lives in or on another organism (its host) and benefits by deriving nutrients at the hosts’ expense”. The second term is leech. A leech is defined by an aquatic or terrestrial annelid worm with suckers at both ends. Many species are bloodsucking parasites, especially of vertebrates, and others are predators. So in other words, a parasite typically attaches or coincides with something or someone where they (the parasite) are the only one benefiting from the interaction/relationship. The parasite makes you sick as it draws things out from you that you’re unable to even see; you’ve got to rid your self of it. Think about the “real” parasite that can be ingested and often times we don’t know it until we’re sick as a dog. Although a leech is a type of parasite, let me explain the difference. See a few years back, I had a post-op plastic surgery patient that had a skin flap which we used medical leeches for his therapy. You see though a leech is often described as a bloodsuckers, which it is, or a “moocher” or a drainer, in this case it was a reciprocal relationship. We applied leeches to this man’s skin flap to prevent the blood from clotting and to improved circulation of flow to this skin flap. I would say this was a: you scratch my back I scratch yours” kind of relationship/interaction. The leech got to eat and the man’s blood flow to this particular area improved. Another thing I’d like to point out is when working with leeches, the real ones, they tended to fall off when full, sounds like some people in our lives; once they have gained from you what they wanted they walk out. Yes the leeches I spoke about helped this particular patient out, but it was still a leech, and once it received all it could hold it fell off. Now think about the company you keep.
“In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].” – Proverbs 3: 6 AMP
How many times have you strayed away from the “straight and narrow” path of life? How many wrong turns, alternate routes or U-turns have you made because you thought you had it all figured out? I’ve taken too many to count, but today I want to focus on a more recent “alternate route” taken on my journey through life (I just can’t seem to get it right…I digress for now lol)
So as you all know I started a graduate certificate program in August and I’ve wrote about the struggles of balancing it with everything else I have going on in my life. Well, sadly I report today that ship has come and gone HA! LOL! I did finish the semester with an A (yay!!) but was not feeling returning for another semester, at least not right now anyway. I didn’t feel like I was giving it my all and although I enjoyed the content of the class, I was over the concept of going to school. I’m like okay I did it, I told myself for years I’d go back, so I did but now I’m like nahhhhhhhhhhhh this is just not for me. So that got me to thinking was this really a part of my Father’s plan for my life or was this just Katesha getting in the way (again) and trying to do things on her own. I’ll take the latter for $500 Alex!
How many of you know that no matter what you may do to take your life into your own hands, God will get your attention any way He has to in order for you to realign yourself in His will. So here I am with one class under my belt, no desire to return to finish the certificate and now another bill to finish paying off….just another self-afflicted obstacle to get to where He wants me to be. Through prayer and meditation God showed me that what I was chasing after with that graduate certificate He has already laid it out before me without ever having to start that program. You see I wanted to take that program so that I could work with women to encourage, counsel and minister to them with a “certification” behind my name. God reminded me that one I have been placed in a ministry position at my church to work directly with women as the director of the women’s ministry (not title dropping just trying to use an illustration) and two He’s opened the door for me to reach women all over through this blog. In both venues I can do all that I desired to do through that certificate. I was so busy chasing my dream that I ventured off the original path that lead to Him. He has it all in control, not me, and through Him only can I accomplish that which He has already placed inside of me. Wow talk about an eye opener and a slap back to reality!
So today I encourage you to make sure that every step you take through life is ordained by the Master. Make sure that you are walking solely in His Will and not in your fleshly desires. Continue to make your requests known to Him and put Matthew 6:33 into motion:
“But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also.”
Forget the alternate route, stick with the original plan, HIS PLAN, and I promise that you will not fail.
Peace & Blessings,