There is something wonderfully sacred that happens when a girl chooses to realize that being set aside is actually God’s call for her to be set apart.

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There is something wonderfully sacred that happens when a girl chooses to realize that being set aside is actually God’s call for her to be set apart.

This quote from Lysa Terkeurst from Proverbs 31 Ministries really stuck with me after reading her devotional titled If You Ever Feel Lonely, Read This. And that I did, a few times. Each time I was left asking myself, Did she write this specifically for me?

So you’re probably thinking, okay Katesha how can you feel lonely? You’re married, have an active 4 year old, great relationship with your family, have the other 3 girlfriends, ministry friends and associates…how can you feel lonely? Hey I’m wondering the same thing, but at times I do. Let’s be honest for a minute I do have a great inner circle, but at times I still feel like I have no one to talk to. Sure I can go to my husband, but there are some things he just doesn’t understand as a man in relation to things I may experience as a woman. I could go to my mother, but at this point in her life I don’t want to bring anything to her that’s going to cause her to worry. I feel like I burden my sister with enough, she has her own life to live. My girlfriends…we just don’t talk or see each other as often as we’d like. Nothing is wrong, just our lives pull us in different directions. And yes I know they are there if I really need to talk, but sometimes I just don’t want to bother anyone, kinda crazy I know. I have great church family, but even in the midst of them I sometimes still feel as though I don’t really relate to anyone. So here I am feeling like I’m “set aside”, feeling as though I have no friends, no one to confide in, go to for advice…its just me, myself and I to deal with these inner thoughts, feelings…

That’s what the enemy wants me to believe, that I’m all alone, even sometimes feeling as though maybe even God has forgotten about me. I know deep down that is not true, but in those weak moments the feelings of loneliness increase and those thoughts seem to be true. This devotional couldn’t have dropped into my email at a better moment. I’m not alone, someone else has felt this way as well. I’m not set aside, I’m just set apart. God has me in this season for a reason, there is something that I’m missing, haven’t quite gotten a grasp of, something better that He’s preparing me for. There is a need for isolation, a lesson to be learned.

To be set apart is to be given an assignment that requires preparation.

So today I want to encourage someone who may be dealing with this same season of loneliness. Don’t give it any extra energy. End that pity party today, get out of your feelings and look for the positive side of this season in your life. There is a greater purpose for it all. No one likes the feeling of being alone, but as the author stated in her devotional, we have to find the gift in this place. I always tell people to find the positive in every situation. No matter what you are going through there is a positive aspect that can be pulled from it. And in this situation the positive side is that which is yet to come. God is preparing us for greater sis. He’s molding us into the women He desires and needs for us to be so that we can take what we’ve learned in the season and bless another sister’s life. He cares so much about us and only wants the best for us. So sometimes He has be pull us away, remove distractions, cause that feeling of loneliness so we can turn from our fleshly emotions and look to Him and Him alone. Keep praying, keep seeking His face for clarity and remember He hasn’t forgotten about you. You aren’t set aside, you’re simply set apart.


Peace & Blessings,

sig KT

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