Month: November 2016

Finish Strong

We are 32 days away from a new year..a fresh start. Looking back over 2016 there were so many plans that we had for the year. We were pumped up and confident that we would accomplish every single goal on our vision board. This was going to be “our year”. But did it happen? Have you taken the time to re-evaluate your goals and plans for 2016 to see how many you actually achieved?

road-908176_192032 more days…

I have taken the time to look back and I am not pleased by what I see. Sure I’ve hit a few goals, gotten closer to achieving some, and then there are those that I have not touched at all. I’ve started and stopped this weight loss journey I don’t know how many times(currently on a hiatus), said that I was going to read more only to add more books to the untouched stack, declared that I would spend less and save more, only to blown my allowance on Target clearance time and time again. I have set my alarm to get up an hour earlier to spend some much-needed quiet time with my Father, only to hit he snooze button more times than I should. These are a just a few from my “short list” but trust me I could go on and on.

Again, we have 32 more days…

If you didn’t quite reach the mark, as I have not, we still have time. There is no need to wallow in the shoulda, coulda, woulda, now is the time for action. Once you have looked over your list, write a new one that outlines how you will achieve or get closer to achieving those untouched goals before the clock strikes 12 on January 1st. It’s so easy to develop the “forget it” attitude and declare that you will start fresh in the new year. Why not start now? It has been proven that it takes 21 days to develop a new habit. Guess what? We have 32 so there is no reason why we can’t get a jump-start to finishing this year strong!

Take it one step at a time. Set achievable smaller goals that will lead you to successfully obtain the larger ones. Lord knows I am dreading the thought of starting this weight loss journey again, but I’m determined to do it! Instead of trying to do it all at once, working out and diet, I’m going to work on my eating habits for the next 32 days. That way when I return to boot camp in January, I will have (hopefully, just being real lol) already crossed this “small goal” off my list and am able to tackle the next and eventually see the fruits of my labor!

This is one example of how I plan to get started, what’s yours? We have 32 more days to finish strong.

So now finish this, so that your eagerness in desiring it may be equaled by your completion of it, according to your ability.
~2 Corinthians 8:11 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT

Give Thanks

Yo is tomorrow seriously Thanksgiving? Like where has this year gone? Whew okay let’s get to the point of today’s post. I know my title sounds a bit cliché, but tis the season, right? This is the time of year that we gather with our families and give thanks for family, life and health. All “good” things of sort. Nothing wrong with that, you should do that however today, me being me, I want to look at giving thanks from a different perspective.

Sunday’s Word was eye-opening and quite convicting for me. Pastor spoke from the subject “Giving Thanks for His Will”. In his message he reminded us that we should give thanks in every area of our lives, specifically in our past, our current status, in everything that God did not give me, and in my unseen future. I have to be honest and tell you that it stung just a bit. I like to think that I’m a positive person, but after listening to this message, I saw areas where I complain more than I should. I realized that at times I can focus more on what I don’t have or how something is not going the way that I think it should, instead of thanking the Lord for the experience and moving forward. When given the opportunity I went to the altar to repent and vow to do better in this area. I left feeling pumped up thinking this will be a great week, I’m going to find every chance that I can to simply say thank you. You guessed it, the perfect set up for a test…

gratitude-1251137_1920I’ve been challenged in a few areas this week and its only Wednesday. Really Lord, that’s how you do? lol Specifically I’ve been challenged in a memory of my past. This time last year I was pregnant with what would have now been my 4 month old baby. I thought I had moved past the anger, the pain, the disappointment but instead have been haunted by the memories of the events that led up to my miscarriage. All I see on social media are pregnancy announcements, videos of babies being born, precious newborn pictures and I found myself becoming obsessed with the idea of getting pregnant again. My husband and I have talked about it however decided together to leave it in the Lord’s hands. Even with this agreement I found myself secretly begging, pleading even for the Lord to allow it to happen now. I haven’t slept well all week dreaming of babies only to wake up and face my reality. Just that quick I forgot everything I said at the altar on Sunday.

So Its time to bring it back in, encourage myself and more importantly encourage you today. For some reason, one that I may never understand, the Lord decided to take my angel back to Heaven with Him. Although the thought and the memory of what could have been hurt me deeply, it had to happen. This miscarriage had to take place in my life so that I am able to share my experience with another woman who may be experiencing the same thing. If I made it (am making it) through this, so can you. Your past may harbor different types of pains or situations that you don’t quite understand, but today on this Thanksgiving Eve, I want to encourage you to give thanks anyway. Look past your feelings and simply say “Thank You”. It had to happen sis in order for you to have a better present life and an even better brighter future. We don’t know what tomorrow holds, but we do know who holds tomorrow and He has it all in control. And guess what, if He allowed you to live through it, He’s given you an even greater reason to thank Him. Every piece of the puzzle is for a reason and for a purpose and for that we should give thanks.

So before you dive into the great spread tomorrow, take a moment to say thank you for all things. For every good, bad and indifferent thing that has happened in my life and for those things that are yet to come, God I thank you. I (we) owe that to you.

in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus. – 1 Thessalonians 5:18 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT


Don’t Call It A Comeback

In the words of Lil Kim “I been gone for a minute now I’m back at the jump off…” and YASSS indeed I’m so glad to be back! So let’s just simply put it as, I’m back from maternity leave LOL. Well hello, hello my dear girlfriends! How the heck have y’all been?!?! (really, please do tell me down in the comments) It’s been soooooo long and I can’t believe its taken me this long to come back, I’ve missed my girlfriends!

These past 6 months I’ve truly been living life, taking the good right along with the bad. I’m officially back at work and the blog! I feel like we have just so much to catch up on: meeting Princess Gabby, labor & delivery, breastfeeding & pumping, weddings & events, family trials & triumphs, and battling this weight honey! That’s all to come to you ladies as we close out 2016 and enter into 2017.

So last we talked I was conversing with you all about having the best intentions. My life six months ago was moving far to fast for me to even stop and catch my breath. I was beginning to feel doubtful, but we know that God is faithful and that all things work together, right? And now here I am, working in that new position, having made dinner to feed my family before bible study, lunches & bags packed along with clothes laid out for the morning, and sitting here with my two-month-old daughter resting in my arms as I type this blog post for the week. I’m surviving each and every day even though the finish line seems oh so far away. I now have so much more to live for and I’m making the necessary adjustments so that I don’t just have good intentions but that I live them out. I’m understanding the importance of certain things in my life and I’m happy for that growth. We all can benefit from re-evaluating the things in our lives and ranking them to be sure we haven’t allowed the wrong things (perhaps social media, shopping, gossip…) come before the most important things (God, family, work…). And please don’t feel bad about it, it happens to the best of us… just commit to doing it right from that moment forward.

Let all things be done decently and in order. – I Corinthians 14:40

So I just wanted to briefly say hello and that I’m back!! and looking forward to sharing with you all each week. I pray that God has done and is doing some miraculous things in each of your individual lives.

As always Happy Friday!

Joy for Your Day,

sig TW


Transparent Moment…

At times I can be easily intimidated and allow those feelings to get the best of me. Shocking huh? (Maybe not lol) No but seriously I try to keep on a tough exterior even through moments when I am crumbling apart inside. And I know that I’m not the only one that feels this way. Think about it for a moment and be honest with yourself. While I have your attention, let me be a bit more specific and dive right into this thing…

Webster’s dictionary defines the word intimidate as:

to make timid or fearful :  frighten; especially :  to compel or deter by or as if by threats <tried to intimidate a witness>

Can you relate to any part of that definition? I can and in more ways than one. I find myself comparing my position or stature to that of my counter parts and sometimes feeling as though I just don’t amount up. Thoughts will run through my mind such as “We’re the same age and I haven’t accomplished half as much as her” or “Wow she is a really great writer and has a lot to offer, my little blog posts will never compare”. If I’m not hit from this angle of intimidation, I’m hit with it from the angle of people’s negative comments and/or feedback which then causes me to become timid and shy back from the whole thing. And if not that I’m ready to completely throw in the towel and doubt myself even more. Here is an example. I haven’t really verbally shared this blog with a lot of people like I should. Yes I share my posts on social media and yes I wear our t-shirt, but do not push it as much in face to face interactions. I’ve shied away from doing that because of the unknown perception of others. Recently my Pastor pronounced blessings over my writing and blog posts during Bible Study (thank you sir) and since then I have felt like the pressure is on. My “not so secret” secret is out. People are waiting for the next post and I am now afraid of the feedback that I may or may not receive. But why though? Why do the opinions of other people matter?

They don’t! Just as simple as that. If I continue to fall victim to these thoughts I will continue to push myself further and further away from my destiny. It’s in these moments that I have to remind myself who I belong to, that I am purposed by Him and how He feels about me. I am reminded of Psalms 139:14

I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.

He then reminds me of 2 Timothy 1:7

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].

He created me in His own image and for that reason alone the thoughts of others should not make me nor break me. Sure I want to be a people pleaser but that is not why He created me, nor is it why He has appointed me with this assignment or gifting. Everything that I do should be to please Him and uplift His Kingdom. I can’t allow anything to get in the way of that, including my feelings of insecurity or intimidation. After all if He didn’t already know that I was capable of completing the task, He would have never assigned it to me.

dont-stop-shining-just-because-other-people-are-intimidated-by-3664419Today I want to leave you with the same piece of encouragement. Don’t allow anything to deter you from reaching your destiny and fulfilling your purpose. As women it is easy to get caught up in the opinions of others or better yet our own perceptions of others’ opinions. Stop reading too much into it. Don’t let it get the best of you. And above all else, never forget how your Father in Heaven feels about you. There is no need to be or feel intimidated knowing just how much He loves you. He knows you inside and out and yet still loves you in spite of it all. Be reaffirmed by that and stand strong in it.

You’ve got this girlfriend! Shine bright but not in your own light, in His.

Therefore, my beloved brothers and sisters, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the work of the Lord [always doing your best and doing more than is needed], being continually aware that your labor [even to the point of exhaustion] in the Lord is not futile nor wasted [it is never without purpose].- 1 Corinthians 15:58

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT





Back Like We Never Left

This past weekend was one for the books. It was my alma mater’s homecoming, NC State, and I actually participated this year. Well somewhat lol The gospel choir that I sang in while in school, New Horizons Choir, held its 40th Anniversary, and while I did not participate in the actual reunion; I did get the chance to attend the concert and see some old yet familiar faces. This reunion was nice, but wasn’t the reunion that really mattered the most this weekend. I was able to link back up with my college crew after 11 long years of seeing one another.

The Hex is what we called ourselves in school. Why you ask? Because there was 6 of us! LOL! Clever right? lol Well it was to a group of 18 year olds lol. We shared some of the best times in college, and also some of the worst. Although we rolled tight in those first couple of years, near the end the group disbanded and eventually faded away completely. Why? Most of us couldn’t even remember the reason(s) but yet and still were happy to see one another once again. Once all together, well almost together as we were missing one member, we reconnected as if we had never lost a beat! We laughed, we talked, we cried and reminisced over all the foolishness we partook in during those great college years. It was a night that we didn’t want to end. We were back like we never left, our true friendship rekindled.rekindled_friendships_often_burn


What is my point today?  The point is to get you thinking about that sister or friend that you need to call and have a conversation with. It might just be time for that relationship to be reunited. As women we are so quick to write someone off over something petty when it can easily be resolved. Yeah I know what you are thinking, some of those relationships are good where they are, but what if they aren’t? What if we are harboring feelings that really have no meaning and could potentially be hindering a solid friendship. My friends and I sat at the table Saturday night and each gave our take on what happened. Half of us didn’t even remember and could only put minute pieces to the puzzle. After trying to piece it together we all realized that our friendships should have never ended. We saw how we missed vital pieces to one another’s lives all from a simple misunderstanding or interpretation. We then understood after 11 years what each other meant to another. We saw the need of the reunion and vowed that night to not allow another 11 years to pass before we saw one another again. And to make that moment even more significant, we sealed it in a group prayer.

I hope this has you thinking. Life is too short. The Hex was there for me during some tough times and I am forever grateful to them for that. We have some lost time to get caught up on and I can’t wait to rebuild our relationships but this time with spouses and children. 🙂 The Hex is back like we never left and now its your turn to do the same. Don’t hesitate and don’t waste another minute. Pick up the phone, send a FB message, shoot her a DM on Instagram, whatever it takes. Move past your feelings or perception of what happened and allow the Lord to use you to put that relationship back on course. We all need our girlfriends, those from the past and the present.

As iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens [and influences] another [through discussion]. – Proverbs 27:17 AMP

Peace and Blessings,

sig KT