At times I can be easily intimidated and allow those feelings to get the best of me. Shocking huh? (Maybe not lol) No but seriously I try to keep on a tough exterior even through moments when I am crumbling apart inside. And I know that I’m not the only one that feels this way. Think about it for a moment and be honest with yourself. While I have your attention, let me be a bit more specific and dive right into this thing…
Webster’s dictionary defines the word intimidate as:
to make timid or fearful : frighten; especially : to compel or deter by or as if by threats <tried to intimidate a witness>
Can you relate to any part of that definition? I can and in more ways than one. I find myself comparing my position or stature to that of my counter parts and sometimes feeling as though I just don’t amount up. Thoughts will run through my mind such as “We’re the same age and I haven’t accomplished half as much as her” or “Wow she is a really great writer and has a lot to offer, my little blog posts will never compare”. If I’m not hit from this angle of intimidation, I’m hit with it from the angle of people’s negative comments and/or feedback which then causes me to become timid and shy back from the whole thing. And if not that I’m ready to completely throw in the towel and doubt myself even more. Here is an example. I haven’t really verbally shared this blog with a lot of people like I should. Yes I share my posts on social media and yes I wear our t-shirt, but do not push it as much in face to face interactions. I’ve shied away from doing that because of the unknown perception of others. Recently my Pastor pronounced blessings over my writing and blog posts during Bible Study (thank you sir) and since then I have felt like the pressure is on. My “not so secret” secret is out. People are waiting for the next post and I am now afraid of the feedback that I may or may not receive. But why though? Why do the opinions of other people matter?
They don’t! Just as simple as that. If I continue to fall victim to these thoughts I will continue to push myself further and further away from my destiny. It’s in these moments that I have to remind myself who I belong to, that I am purposed by Him and how He feels about me. I am reminded of Psalms 139:14
I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.
He then reminds me of 2 Timothy 1:7
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].
He created me in His own image and for that reason alone the thoughts of others should not make me nor break me. Sure I want to be a people pleaser but that is not why He created me, nor is it why He has appointed me with this assignment or gifting. Everything that I do should be to please Him and uplift His Kingdom. I can’t allow anything to get in the way of that, including my feelings of insecurity or intimidation. After all if He didn’t already know that I was capable of completing the task, He would have never assigned it to me.
Today I want to leave you with the same piece of encouragement. Don’t allow anything to deter you from reaching your destiny and fulfilling your purpose. As women it is easy to get caught up in the opinions of others or better yet our own perceptions of others’ opinions. Stop reading too much into it. Don’t let it get the best of you. And above all else, never forget how your Father in Heaven feels about you. There is no need to be or feel intimidated knowing just how much He loves you. He knows you inside and out and yet still loves you in spite of it all. Be reaffirmed by that and stand strong in it.
You’ve got this girlfriend! Shine bright but not in your own light, in His.
Therefore, my beloved brothers and sisters, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the work of the Lord [always doing your best and doing more than is needed], being continually aware that your labor [even to the point of exhaustion] in the Lord is not futile nor wasted [it is never without purpose].- 1 Corinthians 15:58
Peace & Blessings,