Month: December 2016

Reason for the Season

‘Twas the Friday before Christmas and all through the house… so it’s technically the eve of Christmas Eve right? lol… is anybody else on a Christmas is coming high?!? (I know it aint just me ;-)) Well guess what girlfriends? It is coming in just 2 more days!! What a wonderful time to be alive and amongst the living to give honor to Jesus Christ! I just wanted to leave you with a few scriptures to remind us all of why we celebrate Christmas, better yet of why we celebrate Jesus – the reason for the season.

Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us. Matthew 1:23

*Jesus was born so that God could be with you and me

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. James 1:17

*Christmas lights should be a reminder that God is the Father of lights and that every good and perfect gift comes from Him

But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: 1 Peter 3:15

*Not everyone we see knows the true reason for the season, a lot of people get caught up in the commercial driven hype of Christmas, but it is our responsibility to tell them about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ

Well ladies that’s all I want to share with you and I pray that those 3 scriptures touched your hearts.

Let us pray… God I thank you for another opportunity to sow into the life of the person reading this, I pray that I may draw just one person closer to you. I pray that none of us will get caught up in the hype of Christmas and steer away from Jesus. That we would NOT fall victim of over spending to give gifts to our families and friends. I pray that none of us will experience grief, depression, anxiety, nor debt this season. And that we all will remember the precious gift of LOVE. It is in your precious son’s Jesus’ name I pray. AMEN.

God bless you all and have a very Merry CHRISTmas!

Joy for Your Day,


Long hallways, school bell, huge cafeteria, teachers, TAs, core classes, electives, recess, before & after care… guessed it…Kindergarten and I’m just NOT READY!!!

I recently just started going on magnet school tours to get a feel for the school that I want Sweet Pea to attend next year and it is a bit much. There is just SO much to consider. There are SO many different school based themes and tracks to consider and ultimately I just want what is best for my Sweet Pea. On top of all of that my emotions are on an all time high! I think its worse this time than what I described in my previous post, I Got the Blues, when I talked about my feelings with her starting preschool. This time its the real thing. When she enters that school next August, she will no longer be my baby, she will be a big girl like for real and y’all I am just NOT READY!!!

I was a soldier during the first tour, but yesterday was a little different. As the magnet coordinator and school principal walked us down the halls, showing us the ins and outs of their programs I could feel the anxiety rise and tears start to well. I had to swallow hard a few times as I watched the kids working hard in their classrooms and picturing my Sweet Pea there with them. When we went in the cafeteria I almost lost it! All I could see in my mind was Sweet Pea walking with her tray, trying to find a seat and I just wanted to scream. And to make matters worse this is when a question was posed by another parent asking if the kindergartners are escorted to their classes and to lunch and the answer was NO! **insert distressed emoji** What do you mean no? What if my baby gets lost? In my mind all I see is her clammed up crying because she doesn’t know where to go which will make me cry because I will not there to help her. (Tears welling up again)

Every night when I put Sweet Pea in bed, after she has said her prayers and I love yous and kisses have been given, she always asks if I’m going to stay with her tomorrow. During the week, my reply is always “no mommy has to go to work tomorrow” to which her response is “No mommy I want you to stay with me”. I think this is the brink of my anxiety and all of this emotion, knowing that I can’t be with her at all times and one day her desires will change and she will be on her own path in life. In my mind and in my heart she will always be my sweet, sweet 4lb 8oz baby that will always need and depend on me. And although l will always be here for her I just have to accept that its time to let her go and allow her to develop into her own person. And to think I want to have another baby and go thru this all over again LOL!

I need for y’all to pray for me, like for real. I know that I am not the only mother that has gone through this process, and I may be a little dramatic in how I’m dealing with it all, but I need my Girlfriends to back me up because I’m just NOT READY!

Peace & Blessings,

Dancing in the Rain

Today was a cold, rainy day here in NC. Days like this tend to be viewed as depressing, doom and gloom if you will. The perfect weather for staying in the bed, focusing on all things “sad” or reflecting on what is currently not going the way we think. Why is that? Why do we allow our mood to alter due to the weather? That’s another topic for another day. Anyway back to my thoughts for today. Typically on days like today, my Sweet Pea loves to jump in the puddles. It could be raining cats and dogs, while I’m trying to seek shelter to protect our hair, she prefers to take an extra second to simply enjoy the rain. She finds joy in what she’s focused on, her current situation (the puddle), regardless of what’s going on around her. Stick with me, I’m going somewhere with this.

Today I want to take a moment to encourage my single sisters. I was talking to one of the girlfriends the other day about the dating scene. I’ve been out of the game for almost 8 years now, but would like to think I am still able to give pointers here or there to someone still in their season of singleness. As we all know, we are officially in the midst of engagement season. As we get closer to Christmas, the engagement announcements will begin to pop up left and right. For someone who desires to post their own, however it’s not in physical sight right now, this could be slightly discouraging. While you may be happy for your newly engaged sister, deep down you are wishing it were you. While there is nothing wrong with that, if you wallow in it for too long it could make matters worse for you. How do I know? Because I’ve been there…

I’ve never told Girlfriend Tamara this, but when she and her husband got engaged I felt some type of way about it. I remember sitting in the restaurant on a cold and rainy night, at the table clapping and cheering with everyone else, yet screaming on the inside. You see, hubby and I met and started dating before she and her husband and in that moment I was angry because that was supposed to me. In that season of life I wanted SO badly to become a wife. That was ALL I was focused on. I would ask hubby constantly when he was going to propose to me instead of being patient and enjoying our courtship. I should have left it alone and put all of that energy in celebrating with my sister because it was her moment, not mine. Now don’t get me wrong I was (and still am) extremely happy for her. At the time I was being extremely selfish, self-centered and childish. I wanted a ring and was blinded by the bling. I could have saved myself from a lot of sleepless nights if I would have taken my eyes and thoughts off what I desired and put them back on what mattered, the Lord. I think I was somewhat angry with Him as well. But how many of us know regardless of the tantrum we throw, He was and is the One that holds the timeline of our lives. If I would have gotten engaged in the wrong season, I may not have made it to where I am now.

woman-1030944_1920What am I saying today? All of my single sisters be encouraged in your season of singleness. It’s natural to have a desire to be married, it’s a part of why you were created and a part of the purpose that is yet to be revealed in you. Just do not allow it to consume you like it did me. I missed out on so many opportunities because I was so focused on the next season instead of enjoying the current one. This season may seem doom and gloom at times, and you may have some days where you would just rather stay in bed wallowing in your sorrow, I get it. But just like my Sweet Pea you have to find a “puddle” and enjoy the moment. If you have gotten off track, put your focus and trust back in the Master knowing that all things will work for your good despite how you feel. Push past your emotions and feelings and instead rejoice in this moment today. Take this time to embrace and appreciate your season of singleness, enjoy life to the fullest, and instead of waiting on it to change, simply learn to dance in the rain…

that He will give the rain for your land in its season, the early [fall] rain and the late [spring] rain, so that you may gather in your grain and your new wine and your [olive] oil. ~ Deuteronomy 11:14 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT


reflections(singing) Looking back over my years, I guess, I’ve shedded some tears… Hey girls! Its Friday [woot woot] we’ve made it! And if you’re still singing Teddy P in your heads please “LET IT GO” lol.  Today I want to take a moment to reflect on life. I know this is something typically done at the end of the year and people start thinking of New Year’s resolutions, but my reflecting is related to the 33rd year of my life. See Sunday is my birthday (YAY ME!) and I must tell you that last year this time was really different for me. I wish I could paint this beautiful picture for you and say the most wonderfully pleasing things that you hear in the movies and on tv. BUT that wasn’t how my life was setup! See I was going through – existing in an unhappy marriage, failing in motherhood, and drowning in financial woes. I was ready to walk away and mentally I think I had walked away. It took lots of prayers, counseling, and an unexpected blessing from God to change my attitude, to open my eyes to what was really going on in my life. He had to put me in a place to where I could only seek after Him. He needed me and I needed Him. So in this time, I had to woMAN-up, I had to keep a Word in my heart and mouth at all times. Scriptures like:

Marriage is honourable in all – Hebrews 13:4

Her children rise up and bless her – Proverbs 31:28

This poor man cried, and the Lord heard him and saved him out of all his troubles – Psalm 34:6

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward – Psalm 127:3

Girlfriends, facing the realities of life is difficult. People will hurt you, but God will protect you. He’s never put more on you than you can bear. He’s always there – never leaves you nor forsakes you. This is my reflection on year 33. (I warned you, it wasn’t pretty) And I can now say that I’m entering into a new year of my life in a once-again happy marriage, progressing in motherhood, and tackling debt. God has opened and closed so many doors for me and my family. I look forward to so many many blessings for year 34! I serve a BIG GOD that wants to elevate and promote me (and you too).

Let’s pray – God we thank you for the uncontrollable things of life. Although Its human nature for us want to cry out woes and question why, we give you praises for what you’ve done. As we live out this last month in 2016, we ask that you draw us nearer to you. Let us be quiet and still, so that we may hear from you. Now, God I ask that you would bless the person reading this, give them the confidence and awareness to know you are God, all mighty, all powerful, all loving. No matter what they are facing and will face, remind them that there is nothing too hard for you. We give you thanks for life and pray that we reflect your love in our daily lives. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

I leave you with this song, please stay encouraged.

Joy for Your Day,

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In continuing the flow of the week and on this first day of December, remember everyday still counts! Let’s close out the last 31 days of 2016 being our best cheerleader and continue to live and walk on purpose.



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