Category: Life’s Moments

The Question Is…

Sweet Pea is on this question thing now. She asks a million and 1 questions in 1 day and they typically all start with “Why?” It drives me nuts!! LOL! I find myself telling her “Please stop asking Mommy questions,” or “Hey let’s take a break” It wboard-776688_1920asn’t until the other day in the midst of coordinating a project for a ministry assignment that I realized hey I ask a lot of questions too! (I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree huh lol)


I was assigned a task and wanted to make sure that all goes well, I suffer from being a perfectionist and am slightly OCD when my name is over any type of event no matter how big or how small. All of my questions ended up in a conference call with my Pastor and another staff member. At the end of the call Pastor told me “Katesha you worry too much, stop worrying!” All I could do was laugh, say yes sir and ask that he continue to pray for me! LOL!

That conversation led me to think about this thing. Why do I ask so many questions? My first thought well its a woman’s instinct, we like to know the details of everything, we have to have it laid out from top to bottom. My second thought well I was a Sociology major and I tend to analyze EVERYTHING, so I guess its just a second nature to me. My last and final thought….I like to be in CONTROL, which leads to all of my 21 questions and then some! My thoughts then shifted to how I ask of different things from my Father in Heaven. I’ve always heard or been told that you are not question God, but yet I still do. Its our human nature right? I try really hard not to be like Sweet Pea and ask my Daddy, a bunch of whys, how comes, and why nots; but hey it happens and probably more often than it should. I just feel like I need to know why certain things happened or why some things have not happened. I need to know how to handle this situation or that, the proper words to say. I put up my petition, say that I leave it all in His hands, but then find myself asking Him a long list of follow up questions hoping to receive clarity or a rapid response. Just as I need to do in those moments, I want to leave you with a few scriptures to help you along the way when you find yourself questioning God. Read them, study them, meditate and pray over them, write them down and place them somewhere that’s easily accessible where you can put your hands on them when needed.

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts higher than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9 AMP

For now [in this time of imperfection] we see in a mirror dimly [a blurred reflection, a riddle, an enigma], but then [when the time of perfection comes we will see reality] face to face. Now I know in part [just in fragments], but then I will know fully, just as I have been fully known [by God].” 1 Corinthians 13:12 AMP

If any of you lacks wisdom [to guide him through a decision or circumstance], he is to ask of [our benevolent] God, who gives to everyone generously and without rebuke or blame, and it will be given to him. But he must ask [for wisdom] in faith, without doubting [God’s willingness to help], for the one who doubts is like a billowing surge of the sea that is blown about and tossed by the wind.” James 5-6 AMP

And after you’ve asked your question, studied and prayed, as I often tell Sweet Pea when she’s asking me “why”, TAKE A BREAK! Be quiet for a moment and get that response before moving on to the next. It will cause less headache in the end before you are going back down that laundry list of questions again.

Peace and Blessings,

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**Disclaimer: This is starting to be a common theme that I write about, and I apologize for being repetitive, but if I’m lead to write it I pray that as I am working towards deliverance someone else is too!**

Let It Go

Let it goooooooooooooooo, let it goooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay so all of us moms with small children have heard this song one, two or three hundred million times right? LOL! Sweet Pea has been singing it since leaving her friend’s “Frozen” themed birthday party on Sunday! So I’m just about OVER this song! HA!! (Although I’ve joined in singing it with her a few times) 😉 It was just after the party (which was gorgeous!! I felt like a 5 year old princess too…okay focus Katesha) and a conversation with my hubby the next day that inspired the content of this post today…the art of “Letting Go”.

Let It Go

Now if you haven’t figured it out by now I am somewhat of a feisty type female. Never been in a physical altercation, but in certain situations will “read” and “throw shade” with the best of them Okay!!! Especially when it comes to those that I love…oh honey I’m ready to go toe for toe, blow for blow, let’s get it type situation. But that’s not always the best option, right? Although at times I want to be “Petty Betty” and say a few choice words to let them know that its real, I can’t. My flesh is screaming “Yes do it, let’em know” but my spirit man is telling me “Katesha let it go, let Me fight your battles.” And now I’m torn, I know the right thing to do, listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit, but at the same time my flesh is weak and ready to fight fire with fire, but it will never work that way.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood [contending only with physical opponents], but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this [present] darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly (supernatural) places. Ephesians 6:12

It goes so much deeper than that “sweet” revenge we think we will get from stooping to their level. So what am I trying to say here? We have to learn to let things go. It’s as simple as that.Yeah she talked about you behind your back, ran your name in the mud and then turns around and smiles in your face…Let it Go!!! Go old school on ’em like your mother used to tell you back in the day, kill them with kindness. Love on them. Better yet pray for them, yes I said it, pray for them. Pray that whatever they may have against you that they find peace within themselves to let it go and that they will even come to you to discuss the matter and clear the air. Pray that your spiritual maturity will rub off on them, that whatever deeper issue they are facing within themselves will surface and they will come to you for guidance and that it will draw them even closer to Jesus. At this point with all that’s going on in the world we do not have time to waste on what people think or say about us. There is a much bigger picture and there is Kingdom work to be done!

So today I want to leave you with this small nugget of encouragement…Let it Go! It’s not worth it, for you or for them. Keeping seeking the face of the Master, draw even closer to Him so that He may guide your thoughts, your motives and ultimately your actions towards others.

It shall come about, if you listen obediently and pay attention to My commandments which I command you today—to love the Lord your God and to serve Him with all your heart and with all your soul [your choices, your thoughts, your whole being]—Deuteronomy 11:13

You shall not take revenge nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall loveyourneighbor (acquaintance, associate, companion) as yourself; I am the Lord.- Leviticus 19:18

The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself [that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for others].- Matthew 22:39

Peace & Blessings,

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Got Prayer?

GOT PRAYERHi ladies! I hope this blog finds you well on today. I must say I have been convicted this morning and it’s truly a great thing to happen to me. I was reading back over the posts of my fellow GIRLFRIENDS. this week and suddenly I felt so convicted. That guilty conviction when know you haven’t fully trusted God, so like lately my prayers seem unbelievable. I pray because I know I’m supposed to and yes I want God to do some things in my life, but I don’t have any real belief behind them. In my mind and on my own agenda I have developed plans B, C, and D, just in case God don’t come through (when I think He’s supposed to). I’ve been convicted of not feeling worthy of the same (yet exclusive to my life) blessings God has been giving to others. Like for some reason its not supposed to be my turn just yet. And then I open up my daily devotional and today’s topic was The Priority of Prayer! So now I’m like “OKAY GOD, I HEAR YOU!” Because see, God knows I’m a crystal-clear-believer, meaning when He shows me things – it needs to be “crystal clear” to me. I don’t know about some of you and how God talks to you, but He knows I need abit more convincing that its Him LOL.

So with that, I’m very happy to be called out and convicted on this morning because its like a “hello, wake-up Tamara” experience for me. Now I’ve heard from Him and I’m re-empowered to believe in those things He has promised to me. I can go into prayer confidently knowing that I have the righteousness of Jesus and that my prayers have power. I can be precise in my prayers and ask for things in confidence because I am deserving and worthy. And so can you! Ladies, prayer is not a game! It’s a way of life and it is necessary to be a daily priority for you .

You do not have, because you do not ask (it of God). –James 4:2 AMP

Ladies, if you desire prayer please feel free to submit us a request and we can pray for and with you.

Therefore, confess your sins to one another [your false steps, your offenses], and pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power]. –James 5:16 AMP

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You are More than…..


Happy International Women’s Day Ladies! This week I’m going to keep it short and sweet. Rather recently I have been hearing in different situations a general concept where one’s VALUE is questioned. According to Webster’s dictionary, worth is defined as “good and deserving respect, praise, attention, having enough good qualities to be considered important, useful”. I think its safe to say we all have heard “Worth” by Anthony Brown and group therAPy, this song speaks specifically of who truly believes you’re worthy. This song ministers to me personally because I think of the times when I question myself as a mother and I’m reminded that God blessed me with these two children and chose ME to be their mother, one of the biggest roles that will ever be played in their life. The few occasions at work where my best just doesn’t seem to measure up to the standards of some (unappreciative, impatient families), or that individual(s) that we all have faced sometime or another in life that bold face told us we were worthless of their actions told it. The song brings back the memory of how God (Our Father) declared that we were (are) Worthy. Worthy of loving, worthy of forgiving, worthy of staying, that choosing to fight for us was a no-brainer…simply because we are more than worthy. Ladies, never ever look to others to gage your worth, but to the Lord. How encouraging, motivating and comforting to know He chose you; God chose you and because of that, you are more than….you fill in the blank! So my beautiful ladies, just a reminder from this Girlfriend to you, you’re more than Worthy and for anyone that says differently…… in the words of Priscilla Shirer, “Tell them who your Daddy is”



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The countdown to my birthday has officially begun!!! That’s right ladies I have officially marked tomorrow, March 4th as #30Til33 as I will be 33 (Lord’s willing) on April 4th!!! **Que Trey Songz….Go girllllllllllllllll it’s your birthday** HA!! Okay let me get serious. Lol

Excuse my hype-ness but I’m just super excited about the anticipation of a new year of life. Don’t get me wrong year 32 was not terribly bad, but I did experience some losses that I pray I do not carry over into this new phase of life. Wow 33, just a few years away from being considered in my “mid-thirties” YIKES!!! I still have SO much that I want to accomplish and it seems as though life is just flying on by. So what have I done to prepare? I finally purchased a planner!! (I don’t’ think you all realize how much excitement this thing brings to my life!!! Showing my age again LOL!) This Happy Planner is my life and is truly helping me get control of my life! (Emphasis on happy because it makes me feel that way!) I write EVERYTHING down; I mean EVERYTHING down so that I do not forget one single detail of my day! From prayer/Word time, meetings, blog posts, date nights, preschool activities, reminder to text /call someone, on down to learning how to meal plan, this planner has helped me so much because I have to be honest my memory is not the best anymore. Life has become so busy and I can have the best of intentions to complete one task before I am distracted and start on another, never finishing the first! It drives me nuts! Woooo saaaa!!

With all that being said I’m going to take the next 30 days to once again reevaluate my life and those things that mean the most to me. I have some decisions to make within this next year….Do I want to try again at having another baby? Do I want to finish the graduate certificate program? Do I want to accelerate within my career or be more fervent at praying to become a homemaker? Bottom line is that I want to be an all-around better Katesha, not for anyone else, but for me. I want to wake up in the mornings, look at myself in the mirror and truly be proud of the woman that I am and therefore hopefully continue to push forward to try to make an impact on someone else’s life. I am in no way perfect, will never proclaim to be, but there is nothing wrong with striving to do better, striving to be better….I am woman hear me roar!! I want to be a better Christian, a better wife, a better mother, a better daughter, sister, friend, a better Kingdom worker, a better employee, a better cook, a better blogger….

So let the countdown begin… #30Til33…in 5….4….3…2….

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future” Proverbs 31:25


“God is within her, she will not fall” Psalm 46:5

Peace & Blessings,

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Have you trusted?

Have you made a change in your life this year? Have you trusted God enough to listen, step out, and let Him lead you? In this journey of life, we enter into different phases and chapters that can bring us sadness, hurt and pain, or bring us joy, fulfillment, and abundant blessings. We don’t walk alone in our journeys, and I’m not walking alone in mine. For those that have followed my journey over the past year know that loss and grief can be hard; but how God provides for us in such ways is always a gift. From my journey (start here), He protected and guided me through the rough times and has BIRTHED great things out of it. My blessing at the end of the storm is Baby Ford arriving August 2016!


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Go best friend! That’s my best friend! LOL if you have ever looked at those videos on YouTube they are quite hilarious (in my opinion)! And while on the subject, let me tell you about the FRIENDS God has given me. The more I seek after God and grow closer to Him the more He blesses me with FRIENDS. Not those sometime-y chicks or only here for special occasions types; I’m speaking of Good Godly FRIENDS! The ones that will stand up in courage beside me. That’ll call me out and confront my sin. The ones that’ll hold me up when I’m broken down. The ones that’ll pray for me without my asking, that’ll talk to God on my behave. That intercede for me when I just can’t go to God on my own. Do you have these types of friends? I thank God for these FRIENDS. And although I may not always express my appreciation in the manner I deem necessary, I’m truly grateful for each and every one of them. I love my “friendship” support system. It has groomed me into a better Christian and friend to others. These FRIENDS push me when I’ve given up hope, teach me what the Word says about my situations, they live out life and share their personal testimonies with me as encouragement. With these FRIENDS, I’m in a judgement free zone – they know I have flaws and are willing to help me with them. God gave me FRIENDS who are different because that’s the way He knew I would I grow. So to all my FRIENDS, I love you more than words could express, I cherish our special bonds and I look forward to seeing what God has in store for us all!

Thank you for being a FRIEND!

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Thoughts of a Real Mother…


From time to time, I have these moments, that I once believed was “just me” when on the outside I appear to “have it together” and a smile on my face, but on the inside I’m SCREAMING. I love my children deeply, but some days I don’t feel like being an adult, or a mother for that matter.  Some days I miss being able to take a shower without little hands pulling the shower curtain back just to make sure I didn’t go too far.  Or to simply sit on the toilet without the both of them joining me as if I need moral support.  Some days I just want to lay in bed all day, watching adult t.v. shows (remember I’m a fan of ratchet t.v.) and eating a full plate without half of my food being eaten by the littles that suddenly become hungry again after their two plates.  Some days having the sole responsibility for how two other people end up is a bit much.   Even as I have these thoughts and type them, a part of me feels guilty.  Is this normal? Should I feel this way? What about those “perfect” moms?  At times I feel like I have to make a conscious effort to be a “good mom”. I don’t necessarily feel like it came “natural” to me.  Shoot…half the time I’m making things up as I go.  The crazy part about it is, despite feeling this way at times, when the children are away, I have no clue what to do or I’m instantly eager to have them come back.  The plus side, is they have no idea mommy doesn’t know what the heck she’s doing.  They have no idea about my sleepless nights or the planning that’s involved in trying to have a smooth evening after school.  So even on my “worst” day as a mom, I’m still their mommy and they believe I’m the only one that can drive this ship.  So I began to pray and the Lord reminded me that He’s got me and them. He reminded me of when I sat at Planned Parenthood when I just found out I was expecting my first born (I will share that experience another time), that if I trust in Him, he will always have her, that WE would lack for nothing.  To this day, God has not went back on that word.  Now I may have my “whoa me” moments, but we lack for nothing.  As I scrolled down my Facebook news feed, I saw this quote on My Motherboard page and I was inspired to share the thoughts of a Real Mother.


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My Spa Experience

This past weekend was absolutely WONDERFUL!! It was just what the doctor ordered and then some! My hubby surprised me with a much needed spa experience for just me and him; that’s right ladies a couples massage!!!


Now I’ve had a massage before, but this experience was much different. Well for (1) it was with my love and (2) it was actually at a spa. Previously I’ve had one done at a massage therapist’s office but never at a spa! I’m talking robes, special slippers, relaxing music, fountains and chocolate fondue! We were both super excited to spend intimate time with one another because honestly we’ve failed recently in the dating category. It’s SO easy to get tied up in the duties of life and forget to take time out for just each other. No mommy, no daddy, just husband and wife! Can I go back now? Lol

During my hot stone massage (I highly recommend you get one if you’ve never had one!), I was SUPER relaxed almost to the point of falling asleep, but I fought those droopy eyes and took the time to reflect and pray. In that moment I was so happy and so in love and thanked the Lord for sending this guy my way. Not only did I show gratitude for my own relationship, but I also spent time praying for my sisters and family members that (1) they would be blessed to be found by their mate or (2) that their relationship would be strengthened or (3) that broken hearts would be mended and that they too could experience this thing called love. God did not create man to be alone and I am just crazy enough to believe that these desires will be met by God in His timing.

So today in closing, I want to leave you with this bit of encouragement. While going through life and when you have those moments of gratitude for the blessings in your personal life, don’t keep them all to yourself. Pray for that sister who may not have the same in that (1) she will find peace in her current situation (2) be patient enough to wait on the Lord and (3) that the desires of her heart will be granted if within the Lord’s will. Paying it forward doesn’t always have to involve monetary gifts; the spiritual seeds sown and invested in someone’s life will render so much more.

Peace & Blessings,

sig KT

Me Time…



Have you ever just had one of those moments when you realize that you haven’t taken the time out of your schedule to take care of you????? Well, with new and ever so changing things happening, that was me. It only took me a few weeks (with our NC snow and all) to take care of some much needed pampering. There’s nothing like getting that nice massage after manicuring those cuticles and having someone rub their fingertips against your scalp as you sit reclined in the shampoo bowl! YYYYYAAAASSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got a fresh do and an oh-so needed manicure. I get my hair done by professionals every now-and-again, but usually by natural hair stylists that use little heat. This time around, after 5+ years, I got something NEW! Check me out…but before you do and before you scroll any further, remember…this is No Judgment Zone lol. What are your guilty pleasures when it comes to pampering yourself?


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