National Minority Cancer Awareness Week

Happy Tuesday! Some may not know, but this week is National Minority Cancer Awareness Week (April 5-11, 2015). As you follow our journeys through life expressed on our blog, you all will learn that my husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2014. I’m encouraging everyone to pay attention to your body and what it tells you. Be kind to it because it is your temple and God only gave us ONE! As it’s stated in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” (NIV) Get your annual check-ups, followup on your lab results, and ask all the questions you need, even if you think they’re stupid, crazy or too many. Get a second opinion. There are too many resources available to not be in tip top shape! Do your research. The American Cancer Society among other organizations offer great insight and tools to walk you through symptoms you may be experiencing, give you more knowledge in addition to what your medical professional has offered you, potential alternatives rather than traditional medicine.

The more you know, the more you realize how much you don’t know. The less you know, the more you think you know.
by David T. Freeman

Until we meet again….stay healthy 🙂

 

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Just For Me

One of the greatest celebrations for a Christian is upon us, Holy Week, which leads us through Jesus’ death, burial and Resurrection on the third day. We have so much to be thankful for and this week we should show Jesus (everyday really) just how appreciative we are. Let’s be honest, if it were not for what Jesus went thru, we would not be here today. He sacrificed so much just so that we could have the opportunity to have eternal life.

I’m going to get a little personal here. I’m just so full and utterly thankful for all that Christ did, just for me. I am in no way, shape, form or fashion perfect. I have done so many wrong things in my life that I’m ashamed of and even worse have not been pleasing to my Father in Heaven. When I read the story of Jesus’ death, how they beat him, cursed him, spat upon Him, it just makes my skin crawl. I feel so convicted that He did all of that for me, yet I fail Him daily not living up to or not representing Him or His Kingdom to my greatest potential. He hung on the cross in unbearable pain without any complaints because He knew the importance of Him fulfilling His purpose…me. I was the reason He went thru persecution, I was the reason He took the whippings, I was the reason He suffered the humiliation, it was all just for me.

I know it may sound cliché, but just the thought of what Jesus went through, pushes me to want to do so much better in my Christian walk and relationship with Him. But then again I guess it should make me feel that way. That is a constant reminder that my purpose in life is to live for Him and Him alone. I’m taking this week to do some serious soul searching. I want Jesus to know that it’s for Him I live and for Him I will die. I want to be completely sold out to Him. I’m not saying that I’m not already, but there is definitely some room for improvement.

So now I want you to make your thoughts about this post personal. If you have already proclaimed Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior of your life, then I commission you to take this week as a reflection upon your life as well. Are you doing all that you can to push the Kingdom and tell people about the love of Jesus Christ? If not, what is it that you need to do to realign yourself with the things of God? For those ladies that are still on the fence and haven’t quite committed themselves fully to Christ, I invite you to do so. There is no greater decision than willing giving yourself to Christ and securing your soul’s resting place.

If you would like to read about all our Savoir endured for us, reference John chapters 18-20. For those of you that may need more of a visual picture of all Christ did not just for me, but for you too, watch The Passion of the Christ by Mel Gibson. I’m not able to get thru the scriptural reading or watching this movie without being filled with so much emotion. I’m not going to lie, it is very hard for me to image how Jesus must have felt through all of the physical pain but at the same time I am filled with so much joy that He went thru all of that, just for me.

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Year One…

Year one will be all over the place…various emotions and feelings to happy memories and laughing on the inside. Come along with me on my journey of the first year as a widow.

I have so many days that are up and down at the same time I don’t know where to start. Since I travel every weekend to see the people that make laugh and forget about the heartache (at times), the ride home on Monday mornings seems to be the hardest. In our dating season, we always talked for the 2.5 hour ride home. Whether it was about randomness or topic specific, we would talk. Since December, that drive seems longer and longer each time I make it. Half the time I spend it crying and just thinking about him, thinking of the guilt that comes along with being in a long distant relationship/marriage while your husband battles cancer, not having the ultimate control over your circumstances. The other half of the time is spent singing to keep me encouraged, giving me the strength to not give up, not be so hard on myself, just trying to stay positive about life. At the end of the day, I was still a good wife, friend, supporter, and encourager to him and that’s what usually makes it that much easier to handle. Let it out (scream, cry, whatever you do) when you can and need to, talk about it with someone if you need to, just don’t lose hope that it won’t get better. We all grieve and in different ways…this is just my version.

Until next time…

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Change of Scenery

Taking a trip with the hubs and the youngest son this weekend to Atlanta Georgia. The two older boys went to Mamaw’s for Spring Break and we’ll pick them up on the drive back to NC. I’m excited to smell some “different/new” air, eat at some “different/new” places, and see some “different/new” people! You know, just enjoy a change of scenery for a couple of days. I would have loved for this to have been an ADULTS only trip but our normal sitters don’t tend to do well with the youngest if they know we’re out of town LOL. So to avoid all the interrupting phone calls and numerous text messages with questions about when we’ll be back and have we left yet, we just decided to bring him along. We’re looking at a 6 hour drive with a three year old! Our plan is to leave very early in the morning (4am to be exact) to get ahead of the traffic and to tackle a good chunk of the trip while our son remains asleep. Now being about that planner life, you know I have an entertainment bag with some of his favorite activities and snacks! Its funny how excited I get when I know I’m going on a trip, the anticipation makes it hard to sleep the night before. Its truly sad, I’m like a little kid on Christmas Eve =D I just believe that a change in scenery is necessary for everyone ever-so-often; to have a change in daily routine, to renew and refresh the mind, to explore new things, and to experience a different environment.

Don’t ever be afraid of change. Embrace it, empower it. Change can be so healthy! Growing up, I looked at change and thought change was negative. Mainly because the change(s) made the people around me act negatively. Once I got to high school and really understood what was going on around me, I chose to LOVE CHANGE. Whether it meant we were moving to a new house, or there was a death in the family, deciding to go away to college, etc. I mean the cons were obvious but I chose to focus on the pros and adapt to change.

So now I’m extremely eager to hit the road for a change of scenery! How about you?

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Emotional Roller Coaster

Okay so I’m having a day ladies. Like I’m not here for it, not in the mood, leave me alone, give me 50 feet kinda day. I’m really trying my best to get out of this funk but nothing is really helping at this point. This blah feeling inspired me to write about EMOTIONS!

Admit it; we have all struggled with our emotions at one time or another. Whether it is “that time of the month”, or something didn’t go your way, we as women sometimes do not know how to fully control our emotions. Let me give you an example. So my Sweet Pea is going thru another phase of the Terrible 2’s (almost 3’s) and it is driving me nuts! (A toddler will show you that you are not as strong as think, chile!!!) These days if she does not get her way or is told ‘no’ she immediately starts screaming, I mean no tears, just a very loud uncontrollable scream. Normally I’m able to handle it pretty well, but that was not the case yesterday. I was almost to the point of where I just wanted to grab my purse and leave for a while (she wasn’t alone, her Daddy and Nana were home too). I almost felt like I did when she was a newborn and I couldn’t get her to calm down…you guessed yes I wanted to cry and scream too! But nonetheless I had to put on my big girl panties, swallow those tears back down and carry on as if my feelings were not totally crushed! (It was not very easy to say the least).

On my drive into work this morning, as I reflected back on the events of the day prior, I started to compare this situation to others in my life where I may have thrown a tantrum of my own. How many times do we as women pout when we don’t get our way, or give our husbands the cold shoulder because of a small argument or disagreement. (Guilty as charged!) I mean I can go a few days without saying anything if I’m ticked off about something, which is definitely not the best option especially in a marriage. (I’m working on it, please pray for me lol) In the same sense, how many times have we ignored or turned our back on God because we didn’t get what we thought we deserved. Trust me I’m not pointing fingers because I am guilty of it too. My husband has often times told me that I am too emotional and to get over it. And I am quick to remind him that I’m a woman and we are emotional creatures. Okay yes that may be true. God did make women to be the weaker vessel (in relation to a man) but we shouldn’t use this as a crutch when dealing with our emotions.

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. ~Luke 6:45

Wow. That scripture alone just shut me down completely! Our heart houses our emotions, so whatever you have tucked away in your heart will eventually come out of your mouth. And really if it doesn’t come out of your mouth, it will show thru facial expressions and body language. So we have to be careful and truly be watchful of how we deal with our feelings and emotions. Every situation doesn’t require a tear or an outburst.

Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. ~ Proverbs 29:11

So, you are probably wondering how the story ended with Sweet Pea’s tantrum yesterday. Even though I was irritated, upset, and slightly defeated, I went ahead with my normal nightly duties without having a break down myself. Yes I have to admit that I was a little less vocal than normal, but sometimes that is best to not cause further conflict. (As long as it doesn’t linger for a few days lol) After I got Sweet Pea tucked in bed, I did grab my purse and left for a little while just to clear my mind and regroup. That was the best option in dealing with my emotions for that situation.

So I encourage you to stop and think first before reacting or giving in to your emotions. We are allowed to have a moment; we are human that’s natural, but remember it is only a moment. Yes this is a challenge and I am by no way perfect at it, but this is something that I (we) will conquer!

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Adventures of my new hobby…

I’m so loving this new hobby. I’ve had the pleasure of baking some sweet treats for Katesha (girlfriendKT)!!!! She requested cake pops but I threw in some extra goodies. This was my first time really trying out a few decorating tips that I’ve been studying. If I say so myself…I think I did really really REALLY good job :D. I also did a few recipe modifications this go round, which came out pretty tasty as well! A few things that didn’t turn out like I planned but turned out great anyway were the cookies holding their shapes when baked. I used round shaped cookie cutters that were plain on one side and scalloped on the other. Pretty much all of the cookies came out round with no detail lol. But with the next adventure I will modify my recipe once more to hopefully get that perfect shape-holding dough. Let me know what you think.

cookie2 3.24.15 cookies 3.24.15 cakepops 3.24.15 cookie1 3.24.15 table display 3.24.15

 

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