Patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love
Love a word that comes and goes
But few people really know what it means to really love somebody
Love though the tears may fade away
I’m so glad your love will stay
’cause I love you and you show me
Jesus what it really means to love

The nights that I cry you love me
When I should have died you love me
I’ll never know why you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus

When all hope was gone you love me
You gave me a song that you love me
Now I can go on ’cause you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus

What it really means
To love

God’s love for us is the greatest Love of all!

Happy (early) Valentine’s Day from your GIRLFRIENDS!

The Greatest Love of All

Happy Wednesday Ladies! As we all know this Sunday is Valentine’s Day, a day that is set aside to celebrate all things love and those that are closest to your heart. On this day women look forward to receiving candy, flowers, jewelry and cute stuffed animals from the man that they love. Most stores are covered in pink and red, tv commercials hint around to buying the perfect gift, and there we sit in anticipation of this great day.

Yeah this may be true for some, however it is not the case for all. I remember a time when I hated the thought of Valentine’s Day, when I would quote “Love is for Suckas” and spend the day drowning my sorrows in sad songs, junk food and excessive cleaning. I recently read a devotion from Proverbs 31 Ministries titled “When You Hate Valentine’s Day” which brought my mind back to the those “sad’ days where I felt like I would never find the love that I so desired. If I would have only read this devotion all those years ago and realized who my true first love was and just how much HE loved me instead of focusing on my pain then I would have understood further that it was all working for my good. There was a reason HE allowed that heartache in my life, HE was directing my attention back to HIM and the greatest love that I would ever experience…the love of JESUS CHRIST!


So today I want to leave you with that same message. If you are feeling like I or the author in the devotion was about Valentine’s Day…don’t. You may not see it or feel it today but there is a reason for your pain. Take your focus off of it and put it back on CHRIST who is standing before you with the best gift you could ever receive…HIS undying love, which girlfriends is the greatest gift of all…

Peace & Blessings,

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“Check 1,2,3…check your company”

friend-zone-watch-the-company-you-keep    Every once in a while us ladies need to do a company check. You brothers do too, but personally because of the nature of a woman we can tend to “keep” company a tad bit closer/longer than the brothas. So lets define a few terms we all have heard before. The first term is parasite. A parasite is defined by “an organism that lives in or on another organism (its host) and benefits by deriving nutrients at the hosts’ expense”. The second term is leech. A leech is defined by an aquatic or terrestrial annelid worm with suckers at both ends. Many species are bloodsucking parasites, especially of vertebrates, and others are predators. So in other words, a parasite typically attaches or coincides with something or someone where they (the parasite) are the only one benefiting from the interaction/relationship. The parasite makes you sick as it draws things out from you that you’re unable to even see; you’ve got to rid your self of it. Think about the “real” parasite that can be ingested and often times we don’t know it until we’re sick as a dog. Although a leech is a type of parasite, let me explain the difference. See a few years back, I had a post-op plastic surgery patient that had a skin flap which we used medical leeches for his therapy. You see though a leech is often described as a bloodsuckers, which it is, or a “moocher” or a drainer, in this case it was a reciprocal relationship. We applied leeches to this man’s skin flap to prevent the blood from clotting and to improved circulation of flow to this skin flap. I would say this was a: you scratch my back I scratch yours” kind of relationship/interaction. The leech got to eat and the man’s blood flow to this particular area improved. Another thing I’d like to point out is when working with leeches, the real ones, they tended to fall off when full, sounds like some people in our lives; once they have gained from you what they wanted they walk out. Yes the leeches I spoke about helped this particular patient out, but it was still a leech, and once it received all it could hold it fell off. Now think about the company you keep.

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Alternate Route

“In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].” – Proverbs 3: 6 AMP

Alternate Route PicHow many times have you strayed away from the “straight and narrow” path of life? How many wrong turns, alternate routes or U-turns have you made because you thought you had it all figured out? I’ve taken too many to count, but today I want to focus on a more recent “alternate route” taken on my journey through life (I just can’t seem to get it right…I digress for now lol)

So as you all know I started a graduate certificate program in August and I’ve wrote about the struggles of balancing it with everything else I have going on in my life. Well, sadly I report today that ship has come and gone HA! LOL! I did finish the semester with an A (yay!!) but was not feeling returning for another semester, at least not right now anyway. I didn’t feel like I was giving it my all and although I enjoyed the content of the class, I was over the concept of going to school. I’m like okay I did it, I told myself for years I’d go back, so I did but now I’m like nahhhhhhhhhhhh this is just not for me. So that got me to thinking was this really a part of my Father’s plan for my life or was this just Katesha getting in the way (again) and trying to do things on her own. I’ll take the latter for $500 Alex!

How many of you know that no matter what you may do to take your life into your own hands, God will get your attention any way He has to in order for you to realign yourself in His will. So here I am with one class under my belt, no desire to return to finish the certificate and now another bill to finish paying off….just another self-afflicted obstacle to get to where He wants me to be. Through prayer and meditation God showed me that what I was chasing after with that graduate certificate He has already laid it out before me without ever having to start that program. You see I wanted to take that program so that I could work with women to encourage, counsel and minister to them with a “certification” behind my name. God reminded me that one I have been placed in a ministry position at my church to work directly with women as the director of the women’s ministry (not title dropping just trying to use an illustration) and two He’s opened the door for me to reach women all over through this blog. In both venues I can do all that I desired to do through that certificate. I was so busy chasing my dream that I ventured off the original path that lead to Him. He has it all in control, not me, and through Him only can I accomplish that which He has already placed inside of me. Wow talk about an eye opener and a slap back to reality!

So today I encourage you to make sure that every step you take through life is ordained by the Master. Make sure that you are walking solely in His Will and not in your fleshly desires. Continue to make your requests known to Him and put Matthew 6:33 into motion:

“But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also.”

Forget the alternate route, stick with the original plan, HIS PLAN, and I promise that you will not fail.

Peace & Blessings,

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You Belong to Him

belongHi ladies! Today I’m here to simply remind you of whom you belong to. Now due to some disappointments, failures, and heartaches, you may have forgotten – to whom you belong. The devil does his best work when you are not at your best. He can convince you that you’re worthless, undeserving, and full of insecurity. But the Word simply says:

Whenever you feel unloved, unimportant or insecure, remember to whom you belong. –Ephesians 2:19-22

So no matter what, just remember that you belong to God and He’s always got your back!

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New Beginnings…


Hello ladybugs! I pray that everyone’s weekend was fantabulous. I had a busy and overwhelming weekend, but nothing more than I could handle. With a new year comes new beginnings. As you ladies know, I’m a little over one year into the loss of my husband, navigating my way through the grieving process while handling estate affairs; so much in such a short time span. With so much to manage, at times I didn’t know if I was coming or going. I’m in a place now where I can make more concrete decisions, like to stay (temporarily) in my current city. Since making that choice, I’ve moved out!!!!!! Now, to many this may not be BIG NEWS, but to me it’s huge. For the first time since dating, engagement and marriage I’m alone. But don’t fret, I’m ok! It’s time to start life after death and make new memories.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Joshua 1:19

So as I enter this new chapter in life, I will go knowing that I’m not alone. Though things are unfamiliar along this path, I won’t lose sight or be afraid of the unknown. Until next time…

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Sweet Revenge


Bad boys, bad boys, what’cha gonna do? What’cha gonna do when they come for you?! Haha yeah I’m being silly but so serious. This song is what I call the reality of the aftermath when we want to get REVENGE! So if you’ve been keeping up with me lately, you know I last spoke about “Choosing to Forgive.” I decided to swallow that lump in my throat (known as pride and anger) and did what God told me is/was the right thing to do and I forgave people. But I still have my moments of feeling like but what about them Lord? How is it fair that they can hurt me and ridicule me and yet suffer no consequences? I’ve had the most random of thoughts and images of how to seek revenge like – when Mary (MoNique- Precious) charged up the chairs after Precious, or Sheila (Jill Scott- Why did I Get Married) saying “I wondered what I would do when I saw you again- if I would cuss you out or stomp you in the street, whoop that @**!,” or doing childish things like block their number or deleting them from social media and become invisible to them- only to prove what point? Is that really revenge? Will it really make me feel any better? And truthfully, no it wouldn’t. When people hurt you, disappoint you, and downright piss you off, the only way to seek revenge against them is to PRAY FOR THEM. To pray for their minds and their hearts.

Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath (and His judicial righteousness); for it is written (in Scripture), “Vengeance is Mine, I will Repay,” says the Lord. –Romans 12:19 (AMP)

So yes, the old Yolanda Adams’ song remains true, that the battle is not yours it’s the Lord’s. So quit trying to fight it. Stop worrying about it and let Him do Him. You’ve been doing you long enough, now turn it over to Him. Here’s what God has promised you:

No weapon that is formed against you will succeed; And every tongue that rises against you in judgment you will condemn. This (peace, righteousness, security, and triumph over opposition) is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from Me,” says the Lord. – Isaiah 54:17

God is telling you to trust Him, they will not prosper! So ladies before you try going after those that wronged you with threats, fists, and/or fire – first take a moment to stop and pray, so that God can speak to your situation. You don’t want the authorities coming after you!

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“Think Quick”


I peer through my lashes as they slowly peel apart, evidence of “Mr. Sandman” on my eyes, I tried so hard to stay awake. With such anticipation I sit up in bed and snatch my pillow up in the air and look with such excitement…….she came!!!!!!! she came!!!!! the Tooth Fairy that is.

Don’t you remember as a child looking forward to loosing a tooth just to see the Tooth Fairy or what she may bring? Well currently at my home, my oldest has finally started this milestone. The first tooth came out during summer camp and I missed it, but the Tooth Fairy left behind Barbie’s little sister with a dollar in the box, courtesy of mommy. The second tooth got pulled by daddy, thank God, that tooth for some reason didn’t get bumped by her permanent tooth, so the permanent tooth started coming in, and it was waaaayyyy behind the baby tooth (I cringe at the thought of braces down the line). For that one being pulled out, she got $5. Somehow I totally missed this third tooth even being loose. We are sitting at the table eating pizza and wings and my girl is going in on the chicken when she backs up from the table with this shocked looked on her face and opens here mouth. Its full of blood and barbecue sauce (yuck!!! I know) with the wing still in hand she shouts “My tooth came out!!!!!”. We are all excited for her and even FaceTimed the grandparents. She put her tooth in a Ziploc bag and off to sleep she went. The next morning, I rolled out of bed after fighting for space with my two and proceeded to make breakfast and my baby girl comes in the kitchen with such a sad face. She says ” the Tooth Fairy didn’t come” I gasp and immediately internally kicking myself, how the heck could I forget. I quickly say “oh its because it’s snowing, she couldn’t get here and back before the storm came” she had a look on her face that let me know she didn’t quit by my story. So I added a little more to it, “plus your brother was up all night so she couldn’t come.” Yes! she bought it and walked away, man did I feel bad, but I honestly, completely forgot. A few hours later daddy comes in and immediately she tells him about how the Tooth Fairy didn’t come. He desperately asks her, “well where did you sleep last night?” she says “In mommy’s bed” mind you, I didn’t have a chance to catch him up to speed yet. So he follows that with a go check in your bed. He walks with her and “pulls” out a dollar from under her pillow. Of course she’s excited but now also puzzled considering what I already told her and the fact that she now has a dollar, yet her tooth is in her hand. I think we got away with it this time, but I’m thinking it won’t be long. Anyone else ever forget the Tooth Fairy?


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Getting Back to Me

I’m fat! Yeah that’s right I said it. I’m F-A-T point, blank, period! No need to sugar coat it; I’m not “fluffy”, “thick”, “big-boned”, I am just fat! HA!! No I do not have low self-esteem and no I’m not beating myself up, I’m just now choosing to stop making excuses and tell it like it T-I-IS!!!


I recently had a conversation with my husband, a hard conversation ya’ll, I mean hard! Lol I swallowed my pride, attempted to push my emotions aside, pulled my big girl panties up and asked my husband if he thought that I needed to lose weight! Yeah I know, what was I thinking right? LOL! No but in all seriousness I had started to let myself go. I was dealing with the recent loss of our baby and had just gotten to a point where I didn’t care anymore. I was already big before getting pregnant and after finding out picked up weight pretty quickly and probably even more while dealing with the grief. But I’d had enough; I was not happy with myself and it was time to get it together and take care of myself so that I’m healthy enough to be here, until the Lord calls me home, to take care of my Sweet Pea! So back to the conversation…I could tell that I put my husband in an awkward position because he paused probably thinking this conversation could really take a left turn lol. But he was open and honest with me, he told me what I didn’t want to hear, but needed to hear…”Yes, you could lose a few pounds”. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh daggers in the heart, swallow those tears, fix your face, and most importantly get your health back on track!

So Girlfriends that is what I have done! It took hearing those words from my husband for me to make a decision that I can’t live like this any longer! So what have I changed? I’m glad you asked. For starters I’m back working out! I joined a gym in November, and actually found out I was pregnant that day, and have never stepped a foot back in the door since signing the papers LOL! Sad I know!! But in the interim my sister found a local boot camp that was offering the whole month of January for free and asked me to do it with her. I was hesitant at first, but was like hey this is what I need to really get me going. My initial thought was that I’d do the free camp and then start the gym in February and use the techniques I’ve learned. Well I have now completed the 3rd week of camp and am already seeing results YESSSSSSSSS!!!! So my plan has changed a bit. I’ve (well me and hubby) decided that I’m going to continue with the boot camp because my trainer is a beast and the type of work out she’s providing I will never do on my own. It’s tough, definitely not a cake walk, but I’m finding that I love the push! In addition to working out consistently, I’ve also changed my eating habits and increased my water intake. I do really well during the week; it’s the weekends that I need to get better with tho. But that will come in time. I’m just proud of myself for making these few strides towards my goal of living a healthier lifestyle.

So who’s with me? Are you willing to jump on board with one being my accountability partners and checking in to make sure I’m staying on track and two to make a commitment to live a healthier lifestyle yourself? If you’re struggling in this area, trust me you are not alone, we are in this thing together!

Cheers to being healthy, staying healthy, getting back to me, or better yet getting to know, love and embrace the new and improved me!

19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is within you, whom you have [received as a gift] from God, and that you are not your own [property]? 20 You were bought with a price [you were actually purchased with the precious blood of Jesus and made His own]. So then, honor and glorify God with your body. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

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