Good Times…

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Hello luvs! I hope the weekend was lovely. Let me just say that there’s nothing better than having good times and making memories with family. We may not always have the time to spend that we want or the opportunity to travel for visits, but by golly it sure is nice when we do get together. Can I just say that I’m blessed to have a blended family that works! To be welcomed with open arms just feels lovely 😀. Granted, we’ve been a blended family for the past 18+ years and I couldn’t have asked for a more loving set of ladies. Anyway, over the long weekend my sister, niece and I went to visit my dad, mom, sisters and nieces in Maryland. Can I just say awesome weekend! From the surprise birthday treats for my sister to church on Sunday, just an overall nice and refreshing weekend; visited a local winery shared some exciting news, and spent time with my nieces.

Schedules can’t always work out, but hopefully the time between visits will get shorter and the stays become longer. Are there any of you ladies in blended families? Do you guys face any challenges or what were your initial hurdles to get through? I would love to hear your stories 😀

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“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

I Choose to Forgive

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Hello ladies! Lately I’ve been learning how to put on my “big girl panties” and do those things which God requires of me. One of those things being to choose to forgive! No sin (mistake) is more or less worthy of forgiveness than another. Forgiveness is allowing yourself permission to heal and to be happy regardless of the darkness you’re facing. In order to forgive you have to view things from a different perspective, meaning instead thinking “this is just too painful or hard to let go” you have to tell yourself “well because this is so painful and hard, I must let it go.” When you forgive you take on a new role, the switch is flipped from victim to survivor. You are now a survivor of your darkness. When you begin to walk through your life as a survivor you instantly are relieved of the hurt, pain, and bitterness. It’s all a choice, you can either choose to be happy or choose to be unhappy. Forgiveness involves giving up on the hopes of having a better past. The past is now gone. You have to give up on the “shoulds” because the “should” is like dreaming upon a fantasy and not living and accepting the reality. You can’t keep thinking of how things “ought to be” because that’s not reality. You have to love a person as who they are- flaws and all, not as you wish they were. I recently read a statement, that in the process of forgiveness, every true attempt in forgiving strengthens you. For every small effort you make gives you huge rewards. And that the miracle of forgiveness is that there comes a moment when you will no longer remember what you thought you could never forget. The Bible reminds us in Matthew 6:14-15, For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men of their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him [drop the issue, let it go], so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you, your transgressions and wrongdoings [against Him and others].- Mark 11:25 (AMP)

So in order for you to be right with the Father it is necessary to forgive the sins of others. Ladies, whatever you may be going through or have faced in life- betrayal, neglect, abuse, infidelity, etc. you can still choose to FORGIVE. There’s no hurt nor pain that God can’t heal. He wants you to seek forgiveness so that He can forgive you. It’s an amazing feeling knowing that we have the option of forgiveness because some of the things we’ve faced in life is just too unbearable for us to continue to carry around. God doesn’t want us to carry those burdens. Psalm 55:22 says, Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. So today, will you choose to forgive?

Have a wonderful day (walking in forgiveness)!

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He Has A Plan for You

The newness of the year is still fresh and I’m sure most of us are still sorting and organizing all of the plans that we have set to accomplish before year end. Some of those goals we will accomplish, excel and achieve to the best of our ability however let’s face reality; others may be out of reach, seemingly difficult to complete or just not in HIS plan for our lives in this season.

This brings to mind one of my favorite passages of scripture

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The other day I was reading a daily devotional by Short Daily Devotions which discussed this passage of scripture and I thought what a perfect time to share with my Girlfriends. In this devotion the author reminds us that God has a plan for our lives, good, bad and indifferent, it is all a part of His plan. So often when failures or self-deemed missed opportunities come up we quickly say “It wasn’t meant to be” or “It just wasn’t my time.” What if we start looking at it from a different perspective? In the most difficult of situations, we have to remember He STILL has a plan and has our best interest at heart! Yes it may hurt, it might make you cry, but it’s all for the fulfillment of the plan He has already written for your life. But it doesn’t stop there. We must also remember to continue to seek HIS face in those difficult times to see what it is that He wants to teach us from this situation. Once it has been made clear to you, bless someone else that may be going through the same or similar situation. I made it through and guess what so can you! (Ask me how I know)

So I encourage you today to revisit that list of goals again, but this time do not look at them alone. Ask your Father in Heaven about that list. Find out what it is that HE has for you this year, not just solely what you have for you this year. And if you step outside of His will and do your own thing, it happens (be honest), once you realign yourself, accept that it did not work your way and focus on what He has laid before you. Be encouraged, continue to seek His face and submit to His will in EVERYTHING concerning your life, be a blessing to others (don’t be stingy!) and watch His plan (in due season) be unfolded before your eyes.

Peace & Blessings,

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“We’re Two-ing it”

 

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Welp, my little guy is now TWO (let’s have a moment of silence for this mommy balling for the baby that isn’t a baby anymore) and to make it more official now we’ve finally officially kicked the paci to the curb. Well it was more like daddy lost it and I had finished a 12 hour shift and wasn’t going out to buy another one. After looking throughout the house in all the, now empty, secret stashes….oh come on, those of you that had pacifier babies know you hide them everywhere for emergency purposes. Anyway, after a tough night I thought, well we made it through, let’s try another and before we knew it he stopped asking for the “pa-hee”. In fact I told him we gave it to the crying babies and somehow he was okay with that after a few “falling out” moments.  We have entered the biting, the scratching, the wanting anything sissy has phase.  I know I have a two year old, but at times I swear his appetite is that of a teenager. Now moving on to the other “thing” drum roll please……………POTTY TRAINING. About a month before he turned two I noticed he was interested in the Potty, wanting to sit on it and was pretty good about it if I got him to it first thing when he woke up and of course when he was successful we always make a big fuss about it. A few accidents here and there, mainly mommy trying to figure out how to sit a boy on the seat without ending up with a mess right in front. He occasionally attempts the whole standing up thing which tends to end in a mess or a near miss…..me just catching the toilet seat in the nick of time from slamming down on his you know what. Just recently he is going #2 in the pull-ups then runs to the bathroom to “dump” it in the toilet and somehow he feels accomplished……lol. Those who have potty trained little boys we need some help!!!!!!

 

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Accepting My Truth

The freshness of the New Year is still upon us and just about everyone is on their “New year, new me” kick. Most people are excited about a fresh start and leaving the stress, worries and problems of last year behind them. (Writer included) But let’s be honest for a second, problems of the year past did not magically disappear when the clock struck midnight. There were some things that followed us into the new year, as things that we are still learning to accept, cope and deal with. That’s exactly where I am today, learning to accept my truth…

Accepting My Truth

This is in no way easy for me to discuss and even as I type my heart is racing as its becoming even more real as I look at it in front of me. So what’s my truth? What’s that 1 thing that I can’t seem to shake from 2015…a miscarriage.

November 2015 my husband and I found out we were pregnant. It came as a surprise but we accepted it and was prepared to make the necessary adjustments to welcome the newest member of our family. Within a month’s time, 3 ultrasounds later, one showing a 6 week fetus at a gestational age of 9 weeks, a faint heart beat, to I’m sorry Mrs. Phillips there is no longer a pregnancy sac.

It felt like a nightmare that I was hoping I would soon awake from, sometimes it still does. Lord why now, why me? Why get my hopes up, why let me hear a heartbeat, to just take it all away? After getting thru those emotions and thinking that I was finally getting over it now I read different Facebook posts with exciting pregnancy announcements. Lord that was supposed to be me. I was supposed to be making my announcement around this time. Uggghhhh why can’t I shake this!!!! Lord what lesson are you trying to teach me this time? Why does this test have to be so hard?

Even through all of that, through all my hurt and heartache, through masking it all with a smile, I am comforted by the Comforter knowing that this too shall pass. Although I don’t understand it completely yet I know that my Father has my best interest at heart and was protecting me from further heartache later down the road. It just wasn’t the right time, I can hear my Father saying “Not yet daughter”. It’s up to me to accept that as my truth right now. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away and it’s just as simple as that.

In closing today I want to encourage you even in the midst of my storm. You may not have all the answers now, you may be hurting and feeling like you can’t go another further but trust me sis you can. Whatever it is that may have followed you into the new year, I beckon you to keep pushing forward, take it one day at a time, and most importantly…

Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:5 AMP

Peace & Blessings,

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Transition = Transformation

Hello ladies!

I thought this quote taken from Proverbs 31 Ministries was most fitting today. In this devotion, Lynn Cowell says “As we lean into God, asking for strength through the peace or through the pain, He will make us into the women He’s intended for us to become: Women becoming God’s definition of beautiful.”

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This really touched me. I don’t often refer to myself as “beautiful” but the mere thought of becoming God’s definition of beautiful excites me. Although the days we’ve treaded may not have always been the best of days, they were still ordained by God. And as we’ve now entered into a New Year you will have to learn how to embrace transition (I know I will) in order to accept His transformation for your life. I’m no longer afraid to allow the pressure of transition to transform my life. I want His fruit to grow more and more in me, each and every day.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy, [inner] peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 (AMP)

I hope this devotion has touched your hearts today and that you will become the woman God has intended for you to be!

Have a wonderful Wednesday!

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Welcome 2016!!!!!

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Happy New Year ladies! I know it’s been a minute since I’ve last posted, but out with the old and in with the new!!! lol As last year comes to an end and a new year begins, 2015 was quite the year. A year full of emotions…good, bad, and indifferent, it was still a great year. Dealing with death is never easy, but I managed to make it through year one. From handling financial issues to the emotional roller coaster of the holidays, I’m ecstatic to say that God has kept me and saw me through it all. He has placed such wonderful and encouraging people in my life that I couldn’t have picked a better bunch and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. There was new life born (not by me lol…but I love the babies!) in 2015 and plenty of cookies and cake pops made!

I’m excited to see what 2016 holds…prayerfully becoming an “official” business owner is my goal. What’s on your list of accomplishments to tackle this year?

 

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No Longer the “IT” Girl

Okay so I’m a little in my feelings today. Not sure why I’m in a funk but I am and felt like writing to get it out and move on. Please spare me a few minutes to vent, thank you in advance…

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I used to very much be an extrovert. Like was always in the mix, out and about, never met a stranger type girl. I can still carry that persona at times, but not nearly as often as I was say in my earlier twenties. These days I am more of an introvert. I like to stay in my bubble, in my comfort zone, quiet, not much of a socialite; don’t bother me I’m good type attitude. Sometimes that’s cool and perfectly acceptable, but there are other times that I feel like maybe it pulls me back from interactions with my peers.

There are times when I want to be around other people laughing, joking, and having a good time. But the relationships aren’t there which means neither are the invitations to various events going on. Most times it doesn’t bother me if I’m not invited to something but other times it does. Just being honest. Do I expect to be invited to everything? No. Will I go to everything that I’m invited to? No. But still sometimes it just feels good to still have the option, you know? Maybe it’s partly my fault for pulling back and isolating myself. I don’t know, it may just be my emotions speaking.

Whatever the case we are one day away from a new year and a fresh start. So time to flip this little flesh filled pity party and end it on a more positive note. I am going to strive to do better in the New Year. I cherish the relationships that I currently have and want to do better at nurturing those. In addition to that I am going to do better about coming out of my bubble and make myself more accessible. I may even take the initiative to reach out to some people and invite them somewhere! Hey if I’m going to do it, then I need to do it. Go hard or go home!! LOL! Now this may not happen overnight, but prayerfully I can slowly start to come out of my shell. There are many other things I want to work on in 2016 but this is a good start.

I pray that each and every one of you have an amazing New Year and hope that you will continue to follow my Girlfriends. and I on our journey.

Happy New Year!!!

Peace & Blessings,

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Lose to Win

So today I was listening to my Beyonce Pandora station (Judgement Free Zone!) and one of my favorite Fantasia songs came on… Lose to Win!! Ya’ll I was so hype you would have thought I was on stage with her performing it. I tried to contain myself since I was in the office, but nonetheless had my own little concert at my desk. While listening to the song I was inspired to write about a past relationship that I have mentioned in a few prior posts and then flip it to talk about my husband. I may still write that post one day, but not today (lol). Instead after coming out of a GREAT meeting with the owner of my company, I was lead to write about something else…

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Earlier this week my family experienced yet another unexpected loss. I will not go into details right now, as I’m not ready to open up about it. After this happened I tried to remain positive and move forward, but the memory kept coming back to mind. As the week progressed I pushed it further back in my mind and focused on other things…family, ministry and work.

As you all know I started a new job a few months ago and just recently had my 90 day review with my direct supervisor. It was a great meeting and from that I scheduled a follow up with the owner of the company to get her feedback as well. Well guys from that meeting I was informed that I would receive a raise (about a 9% increase, not bragging just telling of the Lord’s goodness) and would be granted the opportunity to take lead role on another client!!! I wanted to stand up in her office and cut a step right there!!! Everything that I ever wanted in the 11 years I worked at my previous job, is starting to come into fruition on the current job just a little after 3 months!! Man God is CRAZY FAITHFUL and I am just so overjoyed that I remained faithful to Him even when circumstances could have lead me the other way. My week started out pretty rough and is now ending on a high note. He took one thing away from me, but blessed me with something else that I had once believed would never come to pass.

Today I want to leave you with a little encouragement. if you have experienced a recent loss (or just a loss in general) don’t lose hope. There was a reason that the Lord took it away from you. It may have caused you harm at the moment as you truly desired it and in His timing, if it be His will, He will make it available unto you. And even if He doesn’t just know that He has something much better in store for you. I’m a living testimony! I suffered many disappointments and failures at my previous job and at one point was started to think that was the best I could do. I couldn’t have been more wrong!! When God opened a door, He opened a door!!! If He did it for me, TRUST me He will do it for you too!!

Keep the faith sis! And as my girl Fantasia says in her song “sometimes you have to lose to win again…”

Peace & Blessings,

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