Happy Friday Girlfriends! As we embark upon the Valentine’s holiday, I wanted to talk just a moment about love. Wait! don’t exit the page, this is not a sappy love story about me and my boo. This is about a SISTERHOOD kind of LOVE! You still here? Okay good —
I’m sure some of you are familiar with the bible story of Ruth and Naomi…. Right? Maybe so? Well here is a brief refresher – Ruth was married to one of Naomi’s sons. Naomi was preceded in death first by her husband and then later by her two sons. Naomi and her two daughter-in-laws (Orpah & Ruth) decided to travel to Bethlehem from Moab. Along this journey, Naomi tells Orpah & Ruth that they must return back to their mother’s houses in Moab. Initially both of them explained to Naomi that she must go with them, but she refused. Orpah returned to Moab, but Ruth just couldn’t leave Naomi. Ruth understood the state Naomi was in, she was destitute and grieving the loss of her family during a famine. Ruth & Naomi continued to Bethlehem and Ruth would gather corn dropped by the workers in the fields for food.
Now, I’m stopping the story here because this should be all the precursor I need to express my point of sisterhood love. We all need to have a “Ruth spirit” – she understood the real needs of Naomi and decided she would help her even though it would be very hard and inconvenient. All of us at some point may experience a “Naomi moment” – where we’re truly in need of someone else’s help but don’t want to disturb their daily life dynamic or inconvenience them with our own personal issues/problems. Nevertheless, what I do know is that God’s Word is true and everything written in the Bible is for us to learn and abide by. The love presented by Ruth unto Naomi is not written for us to just give praise to Ruth, it is to show us how we are to love one to another.
So ladies when you know of a sister that’s going through a “Naomi moment” please have a “Ruth spirit” – one in which they can’t resist, one in which they know is genuine, one in which they don’t feel like charity, one in which they truly feel the LOVE OF GOD through you!
Please remember these Naomi’s on Valentine’s Day too, send them encouragement and love, because we never know when we could fall victim of a “Naomi moment.”
May the Lord repay you for your kindness, and may your reward be full from the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.~ Ruth 2:12 (AMP)
Have a wonderful weekend!
Joy for Your Day,
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Patient love, kind love, sweet love, kind love
Love a word that comes and goes
But few people really know what it means to really love somebody
Love though the tears may fade away
I’m so glad your love will stay
’cause I love you and you show me
Jesus what it really means to love
The nights that I cry you love me
When I should have died you love me
I’ll never know why you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus
When all hope was gone you love me
You gave me a song that you love me
Now I can go on ’cause you love me
Its a mystery to me now I’m glad that I can see Jesus
What it really means
God’s love for us is the greatest Love of all!
Happy (early) Valentine’s Day from your GIRLFRIENDS!
Happy Wednesday Ladies! As we all know this Sunday is Valentine’s Day, a day that is set aside to celebrate all things love and those that are closest to your heart. On this day women look forward to receiving candy, flowers, jewelry and cute stuffed animals from the man that they love. Most stores are covered in pink and red, tv commercials hint around to buying the perfect gift, and there we sit in anticipation of this great day.
Yeah this may be true for some, however it is not the case for all. I remember a time when I hated the thought of Valentine’s Day, when I would quote “Love is for Suckas” and spend the day drowning my sorrows in sad songs, junk food and excessive cleaning. I recently read a devotion from Proverbs 31 Ministries titled “When You Hate Valentine’s Day” which brought my mind back to the those “sad’ days where I felt like I would never find the love that I so desired. If I would have only read this devotion all those years ago and realized who my true first love was and just how much HE loved me instead of focusing on my pain then I would have understood further that it was all working for my good. There was a reason HE allowed that heartache in my life, HE was directing my attention back to HIM and the greatest love that I would ever experience…the love of JESUS CHRIST!
So today I want to leave you with that same message. If you are feeling like I or the author in the devotion was about Valentine’s Day…don’t. You may not see it or feel it today but there is a reason for your pain. Take your focus off of it and put it back on CHRIST who is standing before you with the best gift you could ever receive…HIS undying love, which girlfriends is the greatest gift of all…
Peace & Blessings,
Hey Girlfriends!!! I pray that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday and were able to share it among loved ones!
Okay so today I’m having a mushy mommy moment! My baby is growing up toooooooooooooooooo fast!!! She has developed SO much since she started school and continues to shock me every day with new phrases and sentences. She is very observant and has quite a sharp memory! She can reenact everything from circle time at school to the flow of intercessory prayer during Sunday morning worship!! Lol! She is trip ya’ll and I love it!!! Nothing warms my heart more than when she randomly runs up to me, wraps those little arms around my neck, kisses me on the cheek and says “Mommy I just love you!” **insert tear**
I’m looking forward to continue to watch her grow and develop but can’t help but get sad when those Facebook memories pop up with all of her various baby pictures that I previously posted. Where has the time gone? She will be 4 in 4 months…did you hear me 4!!!! I don’t think I’m ready yet. I want her to stay this little forever, is that too much to ask for? Am I the only mommy that feels this way? I know I can be a little crazy sometimes, but come on now I know I am not alone!!! LOL!!!
I thank God for blessing me with the gift of motherhood and I wouldn’t trade it in for the world. The good days, bad days, and yes even the acceptance of these growing pains that Sweet Pea is developing into her own little person. Its tough to accept but I have to do it!
And you know it wouldn’t be me if I didn’t flip the attention off myself and on to you Girlfriend! For those that have been blessed to be called Mother, treasure that title, pray for your children constantly and strive to be the best woman for the job! And for those ladies that have the desire to carry the title of mother one day, continue to present your petition to our Father. If it be His will I pray that your request be given to you in His timing!
Until next week…
Peace & Blessings,
Is it Wednesday already? This week is flying by and today is definitely not an ordinary day! I have to facilitate 3 webinars today! Pray for a sista saints!
With that being said, I’ve been so busy this week that I did not get a chance to finish working on a piece that I want to share with you. So not to give you some half written mess, I decided I’d share yet another blast from the past with you today.
It was hard deciding which post to share but I decided on, An EXTRA-ordinary Love. Now this was my Valentine’s Day post so don’t get thrown off by that. I can still spread a little love in October and the message within the post goes beyond just February 14th! Trust me, have I every steered you the wrong way? 😉
I hope you enjoy this archived treat and I’ll get back with you all next week!
Peace & Blessings,
Thank God Its Friday ladies! And I’m alive and well on this place called earth. So today’s Fill Me Friday (#FMF, #FillMeFriday) is…
Self-love: regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic). ~unknown web source
So why do I want to be filled with “self-love,” well as I’ve stated before I work on a University campus and last week a student decided to take their life. Now I didn’t personally know the student nor do I know the nature of their circumstances that led to this, but its just truly sad. We can all sit and ponder just what could be so-bad that one would take their own life, when the reality is we will never really know. Its not meant for us to know. We can only pray for their family and friends that God gives them peace and comfort. So in this midst of this tragedy, we find there are those who feel the need to acknowledge the importance in building people up. Now I have no way of knowing if their purpose was truly for others or for themself but the messages left behind touch me as “self.” As I walked into a building on campus I came across a post-it note that read: “You are perfect!!” and as I passed by the vending machines in the same building another that read: “You are loved!!” Upon seeing these I immediately began to smile, I had a rush of warmth come up in my heart. There really are still some good people left on this earth, I thought to myself. I mean it’s like every time you turn on the tv or radio or pick up a newspaper it’s just mindless acts of violence and chaos happening all around us.
And on a more personal note, these post-its reminded me of how much I’ve grown forward but yet continue to fall back on my own issues with self-esteem/self-love. I needed this reminder that well hey, I’m perfect and I’m loved no matter what! Why? Because God made me perfect and because He first loved me! It’s as simple as that! While in these moments of self-doubt, when I think I’m not good enough or pretty enough or even deserving enough, God says but “YOU ARE!”
You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. ~Matthew 5:48 (ESV)
We love, because He first loved us. ~ 1 John 4:19 (AMP)
So I hope this has meant something to somebody. And that you always remember to love yourself because God created you for a purpose and He loves you beyond measure. Have a wonderful weekend ladies!
Girlfriends!!! The summer season is coming to a close and so is our Summer Beauty Series!!! This week is all about beauty secrets and I have to be honest I DON’T HAVE ANY!!! **Shame Face** I have struggled with what I was going to talk about this week. I mean I have been googling to see if I could find something to report on, but I got nothing! I told you all in Less Is More that I’m a simple kinda girl. No fluff added, what you see is what you get! Honestly, it’s slightly embarrassing for a 32 year old women, but it’s the real me which I promised to give you all so I digress! I mean yeah sure I can drop a few nuggets that you may already know like:
- Always wear a good body shapper (Spanx being my preference) to give yourself a smoother look in a dress/skirt/jumper or putting on your Sunday’s best
- Use a feminine body spray (Summer’s Eve being my preference) to spray on your under garments to keep it fresh down there, especially on those hot days and if you have thunder thighs like myself lol Hey no shame in my game, you don’t want to get caught slipping, feel me?
- And for those well-endowed up top, put a little deodorant in between and under your breasts to help control sweat and odor. (I just recently learned this trick and it works wonders lol)
- Want clear skin? Drink plenty of water!!! The Girlfriends and I have challenged each other to drink 1 gallon of water a day and it is working wonders for my skin!
- Not able to get a pedicure as often as you’d like? Get you a 4-in-1 pedicure brush from the Target, some foot scrub and go to work honey!!! Then apply some Vaseline to your feet, put on a pair of socks and boom! Soft heels again!!! LOL!
But like I said I’m sure you all already knew that right? So me being me, I wanted to flip this week’s post around a bit and talk about beauty from within. Let’s face it you can have all the beauty secrets in the world, but if your self-esteem is low, your character is flawed and your heart/motives aren’t right, those go right out the window. How many times have you put on a fly outfit, a full face of makeup and a forced smile, yet still felt as though you weren’t pretty or felt as though you still missed the mark. I’ve been there where others told me I was pretty but in my mind I felt like I was too fat and not as cute as the little petite girl next to me. We (blogger included) have to stop that and start loving on ourselves. The Bible says that we were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). God created us in His own image, therefore regardless of what society views as beautiful or how that voice in your head makes you feel, honey you are beautiful!! Beauty is you!!! Yes you!!!! Say it loud, I’m CUTE and I’m proud!!! LOL!
No but seriously the message I’m trying to push today is to love yourself just the way God made you. Loving yourself doesn’t have to hurt, as I told you in Pretty Hurts, and can be done modestly. I’m not telling you to start being arrogant or thinking too much of yourself, but I am saying that you should portray the beautiful spirit that God intended for you to have even while you were in your mother’s womb. Honestly I know that sometimes it’s hard to find her from within, but trust me she is there! Beauty is knowing who you are and to Whom you belong! Starting today let’s make a pack to not only spend time nurturing and enhancing our outer beauty, but let’s go a step further and take just as much time, no let’s take more time, molding and strengthening the inner you. If we can share beauty secrets to enhance the outer woman, we can also share those to bless the inner as well, right?
“Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] [a]interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 AMP
Five years ago today, I became the Mrs. to my Mr. It was a beautiful “HOT” day that I’ll never forget. It felt like a dream and I think it took me to wake up the next morning to realize, it was a reality. I thank God for blessing me with such a hardworking, devoted, and loving husband. I’m excited to see what the future has in store for us and look forward to many, many more anniversaries to come!
Our love story is not one of high school sweethearts or childhood friends. We met online and now every time I see an online dating commercial I literally laugh out loud when the couple lies about how they met. We share a bond that’s incomparable. So, today as we celebrate us and reflect on how much we’ve grown together, I just want to say THANK YOU. Thank you for loving me and our family to immeasurable lengths; for unselfishly grinding each and every day to support us; for putting up with me, flaws and all (it aint easy). Thank you for simply being the love of my life!
Happy Anniversary baby, I love you!
Our first dance:
I woke up stressing yesterday
I went to sleep the same way
First thing that I saw this morning was your face
I think today I’ll be okay, thank you baby
Amazing how just one kiss, makes the drama not exist
And when the walls start closing in, then theres you
And when the walls start crumbling, then theres you
If I aint got nothing else theres always you…
-Day 26: Then There’s You
“I now pronounce you husband and wife” *Deep Breath* *First Kiss as One Flesh* *Sigh of Relief* *WE MADE IT, FINALLY*Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t mind me I’m just reflecting back on thoughts of my wedding day. You see Hubby and I will celebrate 4 years of marital bliss tomorrow!!! Wooooooooooo hoooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!
I am super excited to hit yet another milestone in our journey as husband and wife. I do not take any year we have spent becoming one for granted because honestly there were moments when I didn’t think we would make it to 4 years, shoot I didn’t think we would have made it to one year of marriage, just being real. Sure we have all seen the fairy tale love stories in movies, TV sitcoms and plays, but let’s be real; every day in reality of marriage is not all glitter and glam. There are days when I sit and think “is this really what I waited all my life for?” LOL! I mean really no one can get under my skin like that man!!! Even in those weak moments of doubt, I will fight anyone that speaks negatively or down about my man. (BUT SERIOUSLY!!!) No our journey has not been easy, there were moments when we were both ready to walk out the door, but looking back I don’t think I would trade it for the world. All the tests and trials that we’ve been through have only made us stronger and allowed us to love and appreciate each other more. The theme for our wedding was “A Forever Love” and I’d like to think we have made that theme of our marriage in totality. I took my vows seriously when I declared before God “to death do us part”. Divorce wasn’t an option then and it’s not an option now. Regardless of what trials are ahead of us, we have to remember that we made it through in the past and with the help of our Lord and Savior we will make it thru again.
So today I want to take a moment to salute the man that prayed for so many years ago and is blessed to now call my husband. I thank you for all that you’ve given to make me happy. I thank you for how you have put yourself on the backburner, and put your family first on many occasions. Thank you for all of the many sacrifices you made, for swallowing your pride and doing what you had to do to make sure that your family has been taken care of. None of it goes unnoticed. I even thank you for working thru the hard moments when my actions or words were too harsh. Thank you for loving me past my hurts, my insecurities, for telling me that I’m beautiful and that you are blessed to have me. Thank you for doubling back that day in the mall almost 7 years ago to, as you say, “just make me smile”. Thank you for continuing to make me smile even today as I write this post.
I love you baby and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you! Happy Anniversary my love!!! Okay I’m done reflecting; now it’s time for some celebrating….
“However, let each man of you (without exception) love his wife as (being in a sense) his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband (that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly).” Ephesians 5:33 AMP
Catch up here…With the holidays done, it was back to normal life with one minor adjustment…WE’RE GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yep you read it right. So in the mix of the holidays lies my birthday. Yes I don’t really do much for my birthday, but since it was the BIG 3-0, I wanted to do a really nice sit down dinner at a fancy restaurant. So I started planning and inviting all my friends and their hubby’s. I got together this nice evite and picked out a fancy place and thought I was doing something lol…to my surprise (and it truly was because I know EVERYTHING!!!) there was something else in the mix brewing.
Since in previous conversations I told Robert that I wanted to do something big for my birthday, but I really felt comfy doing something simple something small lol (I mean a girl can dream right lol). Needless to say, he teamed up with #TEAMDOCKERY and it was a wrap! Now I have been to their house, watched their kids while they were on a weekend getaway, spent Thanksgiving there and was totally clueless. I mean I usually know when stuff is going down. I give mad props to everyone for keeping this secret! I would say that the toughest part of their entire shindig was getting me there and they had the right person tasked with that…MY SISTER. So the story behind that was we were planning on working out, so I gets changed and waiting for my sister…and waiting…still waiting…finally I’m like you taking too long I’m not going. Then my mom says she has a headache and in pain can we go get her something from the store […now this should have been clue #1 that something fishy was going on because I’m pretty sure we have everything under the sun in our “medicine” cabinet, but I didn’t check she hurting go get something no if ands or buts…]. So then me and my sister spends 20 minutes in Harris Teeter and I’m ready to go because my momma hurting…then she forgets something and we circle the store. √ed that off the list…now to the line, but we had another detour; so about another 20 minutes pass and I’m done at this point. We finally leaves and then she wants to “go check out the clubhouse for the baby 1st birthday”…who does that at 8-9pm?!?!? After going back and forth for about 5 mins, I pull up there and told her I’m not going because it looks like someone having a Christmas party (I mean it is December). After another 5 minutes of arguing lol I went up towards the door and as I get to it and my sister opens it (I’m looking at her sideways lol) all I see is my mom and Robert!!!!!!!!! Oh I busted out in tears! I’m shocked because I have no clue why he’s here (I just saw him less than 2 weeks before for Thanksgiving) and why is he all dressed up. So after he comes outside to get me to come in (yea he had to come and get me lol) I see all of my luvs…mom, the baby, brother, all my besties, my aunt and a few cousins!!!! I was seriously in awe that this was happening…and did I mention that I have on gym clothes and everyone is all jazzy lol.
So after I speak to everyone I was whisked away and got changed (YES!!!!! They had hooked a sista up). Back to the party I go and I walk into “Scandal” affair. YAY! I’m so excited because that’s my show and I’m the leading lady 🙂 . I mean all of the characters where there even Pap Pope even down to the transitioning sound (sounds like a camera shutter lol) After it’s all said and solved P-A-R-T-T-A-A-Y-Y-Y T-I-M-E. Skrrreeek….things got quiet and people looking, then I see Robert with the microphone. It’s kinda hard to me to focus on what he’s saying because I’m trying to figure out what’s really going on….then he’s on ONE KNEE!!!!!!!!!!!!! I busted out crying again lmbo. I was such a crier that night. And I finally said YES! Yea yea yea…it took me a minute or two to get it together and say yes lol. December 6, 2013. Continue reading…